My MIL can be wonderful, and has been very good to us in the past, so feel a bit like a two faced witch saying this, but...
My DS was born 2 weeks ago, and I have been finding it really really difficult. I slipped a disc in my back 3 weeks ago, and can hardly walk. Feel so inadequate, like I can't look after my own son, I can rarely get through the day without crying. Am just about coping and no more. He's such a good baby, sometimes I think he deserves a lot better than me as a mum. My DH has been absolutely amazing, but he's going back to work next week, and my Mum has been helping and has just been fantastic too, but she's not well herself, and is off work at the moment, but will eventually be going back too. Am absolutely terrified about how I'm going to cope when Mum and my DH go back to work. Basically, my MIL has shown next to no interest in my DS, apart from bragging about him on facebook and being passive - aggressively huffy when she talks to me or comparing him unfavourably to her other, 3 months older and apparently vastly superior grandson. She never asks how I am or seems to be that interested, I think she thinks I'm making a fuss. She's also started being overly clingy with DH, she's taken to buying him underwear and socks, and took him for a haircut the other day (!!!!!!) - he's 25 FFS, plus, I'm his wife!!! If he can't buy his own underwear, the only person who should be buying it for him is me!!!! Had an absolutely horrendous evening with DS last night - screaming, purple, rigid, the works. In the middle of this epic tantrum (the first time I've been totally alone with DS, it was a big deal for me to prove I could look after him without help, and am not a useless rubbish Mum), MIL phones to ask about corsages for a wedding we're going to on Monday (a whole other story in itself). Itold her DS was kicking off, could I talk to her about it another time, she basically ignored me, said, "yeah, they do that" and carried on talking to me at great length about orchids and the exact shade of purple I wanted (for the wedding of my DH'S cousin, who he hasn't seen since he was about 5). We're really struggling to cope, and MIL just isn't interested at all. I feel quite hurt, if I'm honest, I thought we were close, and have posted before about how great she is.
Just saw how long this post is, sorry, but AAAAAAAAARRRRGGGGHHHH!!!! Just feel under so much stress at the moment, feel like I'm close to breaking point and MIL is just not helping at all.
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DanielSan · 17/05/2013 09:41
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