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Passive aggressive sunflowers?

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Abitlikechicken Thu 16-May-13 22:22:57

I made a suggestion to my DD's nursery that they make some improvements to their garden; tidy it up a bit, some new toys, maybe a bit of planting. A few days later the manager announces theyre having a stay-and-play and intend to get the kids gardening. IAB passive aggressive or pushy to take in some sunflower plants with DD on this day? OH seems to think so...

DontMeanToBeRudeBut Thu 16-May-13 22:26:02

I don't see why it would be either but maybe offer to bring them first before you turn up with them. It's great that the nursery is reacting so quickly to your suggestions and involving the children.

Abitlikechicken Thu 16-May-13 22:44:54

Yeah, I thought it was nice of them, hence my offer. They seemed ok with it and I wanted to give a bit back...

thebody Thu 16-May-13 22:48:09

No good on you.

If you had used a childminder your dd would already have planted one. Oh and grass seed with trays in the dark/light/ watered and not to show your dd what plants need to grow!


whois Thu 16-May-13 22:49:02

Huh? I don't see it as passive aggressive. I see that as getting involved and being enthusiastic about the garden, which you asked to be improved. Sounds fine to me.

Vividmemories Thu 16-May-13 22:49:11

I think it's a lovely gesture, not passive aggressive at all!

thebody Thu 16-May-13 22:49:47

Lol as that's what I did in my setting. Pressed too soon.

Nothing wrong with suggesting things op.

HibiscusIsland Thu 16-May-13 23:24:10

I don't think sunflowers would be passive aggressive, but maybe you could use the language of flowers to send them messages

You could take in Balsamine to show that you are impatient that they sort out the garden

Yellow carnations to show that they have disappointed you by not sorting it earlier

Fungus to show disgust

Wormwood to show bitter sorrow

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Thu 16-May-13 23:46:04

I like Hibiscus's idea. grin But no...sunflowers would be nice..not passive aggressive at all!

WhiteBirdBlueSky Thu 16-May-13 23:53:49

How is that passive aggressive? Unless you asked them in an aggressive way? You're just joining in.

Ozziegirly Fri 17-May-13 06:46:57

Sunflowers are a bit of an agressive flower, the way they grow bigger than you and leer down. We had some outside our living room and at night it would often make me jump as their shadowy forms stood staring menacingly through the window.

Maybe a nice busy lizzie instead?

Buzzardbird Fri 17-May-13 07:24:56

Might be nice to take in a couple of packets of sunflower seeds so that the children could grow one each and watch them rot away in the torrential summer rain. Hope they get to use their garden this year.

HibiscusIsland Fri 17-May-13 11:49:42

Ozzie is right. Sunflowers can look menacing.

Vivacia Fri 17-May-13 11:59:58

I think offering to take such appropriate plants in is a lovely idea.

I think pointing out the deficiencies of their garden might have been ill-advised. You can imagine them thinking, "Sheesh, we ensure your child is fed, watered, educated, entertained, comforted and nurtured in a clean and safe environment and now we're being criticised for having an untidy garden in Spring!".

cornypedicure Fri 17-May-13 12:02:20

I love sunflowers but so do the slugs.
Have given up on them now.
Wouldn't mind at all if someone gave me some though.

accordiongirl Mon 20-May-13 23:07:43

Lovely idea!

EatenByZombies Mon 20-May-13 23:09:28


Also, the title made me grin before I read the post.

LouiseSmith Tue 21-May-13 11:18:38

We have a sunflower on our kitchen windowsill at the moment. Its only a baby. I like the sunflower seed idea. Maybe they could decorate there own wooden block with there name, and plant on each in the garden. My son loves planting and watching things grow.

I don't think its passive aggressive, unless you throw it at the on your way in.... x

TSSDNCOP Tue 21-May-13 12:21:54

Each kid can have a sunflower to care for and a prize at the end for the tallest!

JesusInTheCabbageVan Tue 21-May-13 12:26:03

I had a mental image of a huge bed of sunflowers, planted so that from the air they spell "Did you mean that to sound so rude?"

If the nursery do that with your sunflowers OP, then I think it may be a hint grin

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