This year dds birthday falls on her dads weekend. Normally we split it so we both see them at some point during the day. I said I wanted the children at home Friday night and he could pick them up around 10am Saturday (her birthday is the Saturday) and he kicked off until he realised it was a similar situation but my weekend for ds's birthday next year, so agreed.
Now they want to collect the kids at 730am on dds birthday as there's a scouting camp that weekend for the whole family and they've advised to be there at 9am.
However mil also asked to take them away next year to Florida (with exh) as it will need to be longer than a week. I said I'd be ok with ten days but not really longer, then she said they wanted to go Easter holidays. Which is ds birthday!
So now I asked mil about next year, dd birthday will be on my weekend and I'd like to take them to the same camp but come back the Monday (her birthday will be Sunday) and mil said shed have to talk to exh about it as not sure what he'd say!
To be honest I don't want to miss any of my children's birthdays and I think now that they're taking the p* a little, dd doesn't even get out of bed till 8 as she's a mini teenager, and I'll essentially miss both her and ds's birthdays and then have to fight to bring her back the day after hers next year. Thinking about saying ten day holiday is ok, but not on ds birthday. Not sure what to do about dds, maybe say they can pick her up at that early time, but by the same measure next year she'll be dropped at her dads late on the Sunday, so no one misses any birthdays.
Is that fair?
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Seeing the kids on their birthdays
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arghargh · 15/05/2013 16:30
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