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to think sitting in a pub drinking on your own for 5 hours is an abnormal thing to do

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aisoft Sun 12-May-13 20:44:01

Me and DP went shopping today and popped into Walkabout at about about 3:45 to get some food before going home. My little brother was in there drinking on his own and he had several empty pint glasses on his table. I asked him about this and he said he'd come down to watch the football at 1, he's a Spurs fan and his team were playing at 1:30 but then he was staying on to watch the next game which kicked off at 4, this means he would have been there nearly 5 hours drinking alone incessantly. I think this is very strange thing to do but DP thinks its no big deal as he's just relaxing on a Sunday and I'm being a nag and a busybody.

ilovesooty Sun 12-May-13 21:07:59

I do it myself when I'm on holiday. It doesn't seem abnormal to me.

ChippingInLovesSunshine Sun 12-May-13 21:14:36

Not abnormal or weird at all - perfectly normal for footy/rugby/cricket fans. He stayed to watch another match - what's the big deal?

Iamsparklyknickers Sun 12-May-13 21:16:06

If he hasn't got sky then it's the only place he can watch it really and logic follows pub= beer. Especially for football watching.

If none of his mates wanted to go with him why should he miss out?

Perfectly normal I would say.

Picturesinthefirelight Sun 12-May-13 21:17:15

That was me last year during the Wimblefon final (except I had to leave one pub as I was propositioned by a drunk)

Dd was rehearsing for a show in a town an hour from home and I had 4 hours to kill. Managed to find a fairly decent place opposite the theatre.

TigOldBitties Sun 12-May-13 21:17:50

I'm presuming the match he was going to watch at 4:00 was the Man U v Swansea one. Was quite a thing as I think it's Sir Alex Fergusons last match with the tea, ever.

My DH (also a spurs fan) watched it especially.

Plus what else should he be doing? Going home and watching some other crap on TV, if that's what he enjoys and isn't harming anyone leave him alone. Doesn't sound as if he was particularly drunk so can't see the harm.

aisoft Sun 12-May-13 21:49:07

I guess I'm in the minority here but it still seems really strange.

DragonMamma Sun 12-May-13 21:54:21

I work in a pub and it's very normal. I'd say more people come in alone and get chatting to other locals than actively go out in groups, where I work.

It wouldn't make me think twice.

XiCi Sun 12-May-13 22:03:51

You seriously think its strange for a guy to watch the footie in a pub? Seriously?

ColaConkie Sun 12-May-13 22:12:53

Totally normal.

Leeds2 Sun 12-May-13 22:31:23

I think it is normal too!

scaevola Sun 12-May-13 22:34:13

I think most of this is normal.

But the sitting by himself is a bit odd, as drinking alone, even in public, can be a concern. Or was he with one set of fans for game 1 and expecting to be with others for game 2?

squeakytoy Sun 12-May-13 22:36:10

"as drinking alone, even in public, can be a concern"

oh dear.. people had better be concerned about me, as I have no issue with going into a bar and drinking a couple of drinks on my own if I am in the mood to do so...

squeakytoy Sun 12-May-13 22:38:08

In fact, that is such a load of crap about how if you drink on your own you must have a drink problem ... hmm

My mum was a widow for 15 years before she died.. she enjoyed a glass or two of wine in the evening, when my Dad was alive.. should she have stopped that after his death in case people thought she had a drink problem?

I am sat here now with a glass of whiskey and coke.. I am on my own... should I sign up to AA..

elfycat Sun 12-May-13 22:45:36

I went to my local pub to get out the house to write an essay (less distractions). Drank a couple of pints real ale while doing so. It's a quiet place in the day and I'm getting to be a regular.

I go in for a pint when DH is away with work fairly often.

60sname Mon 13-May-13 00:27:07

DP sometimes goes to watch a game on his own in our local - we have Sky but the flat is small and he thoughtfully doesn't want to hog the tv all day if there are back to back games. He likes the atmosphere and has a few pints, doesn't equate to a drink problem!

cory Mon 13-May-13 08:36:30

Drinking alone is only a problem if you need the presence of other people to restrain you from drinking too much. That will be true of some people. But not everybody is in that boat.

The same quantity of alcohol isn't suddenly going to become more dangerous because you consume it on your own.

And it is totally possible to become an alcoholic in company.

Morloth Mon 13-May-13 08:49:19

God, what I wouldn't give for 5 hours alone in a pub drinking...

SundaysGirl Mon 13-May-13 09:22:38

I still don't get WHY you thnk its strange? Because he was not with a specific group of people? Whats the difference in sitting with 3 mates and watching a game all afternoon with some pints and doing it 'alone' around those you don't actually know but sharing the atmosphere?

So long as he is not a problem drinker to your knowledge I'd say this is more about how you feel about socialising and spending time by yourself than about your brother.

Trill Mon 13-May-13 09:34:35

He wasn't on his own, he was there with all the other football fans.

He wasn't just drinking, he was watching football.

It's not as if he spent 5 hours sitting silently staring into space while drinking.

MadBusLady Mon 13-May-13 09:38:20

I'd do that and not even to watch the football. I'd probably stop at three pints and I'd have some food too, but then I'm not a 19yo strapping lad. I'd take books and newspapers and the kindle and have a chat to the bar staff or a random punter now and then. Bliss.

Obviously he can't drink that amount every day forever, but I assume he doesn't? Agree with what SundaysGirl said, this is maybe an introvert/extrovert thing.

bollockstoit Mon 13-May-13 09:54:25

I think it's "normal", and I know several men who do this, however they are fairly heavy drinkers. It can be normal and still not a particularly good idea.

Birdsgottafly Mon 13-May-13 10:09:14

It is normal in every pub that I go into regularly. In a way if a Match is on and you are a regular, you aren't really "on your own". He has spent the day watching sport whilst having a drink, I don't see the problem. I am not a big football fan, but I like to watch main games in the pub. I feel disappointed if I don't know anyone who wants to go out to watch the World Cup, I wish that women on their own in pubs were not thought of "as strange".

Birdsgottafly Mon 13-May-13 10:11:54

Thinking about it, if I had the choice of shopping for the day, or sitting in the pub, I would sit in the pub.

Birdsgottafly Mon 13-May-13 10:11:55

Thinking about it, if I had the choice of shopping for the day, or sitting in the pub, I would sit in the pub.

Lj8893 Mon 13-May-13 10:12:20

I don't think women on their own in pubs is thought of as strange, its certainly not strange where I live.

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