At the park a few days ago and was sat with a couple of friends, both of which I had thought were good friends. Our kids had their bikes and were riding around.
We were talking about stabilisers and I was saying I'm not sure when to take them off etc. Friend A says her DS learned to ride by using a balance bike and that it was really good, DS learnt within a few days. She said if I could (then hesitated very slightly) find someone who had one, she recommended borrowing it for my DD who could learn to ride that way. I said ok. Thought it was a good idea but a non starter because I don't know anyone with a balance bike.
Friend Bs' DS came running over about 10 minutes later to say that he wanted the stabilisers taken off and wanted to learn to ride a bike properly. Friend gushed about how this was a fantastic idea. Friend A then says "I have a balance bike, how about I bring it over tomorrow and X can have a go on it." This was within my earshot given how we were all sat around the same table.
I didn't say anything but thought this seemed a little off really. Friend A actually lives up the road from me. I am trustworthy with stuff and I thought we were actually friends. I am at a bit of a loss as to why she would suggest I find someone who has a balance bike to borrow, without saying that she has one, then offers it up to our other friend 10 minutes later. I actually felt like I was intruding on their conversations after this point as Friend A turned around to face the park and didn't turn back again. I was sat on the other side of the table so her back was to me for the rest of the time.
I am very 
. She is a lovely person and I did consider her to be a friend but actually I don't know anymore. I recently organised a weekend away, in the end she couldn't make it (after paying) and rather than actually let me know (organising it was a hassle and I did have to chase her up a couple of times) I found out through her posting it on Facebook (not my wall or anything). I thought common courtesy would mean she would have contacted me directly.
I am guessing that she doesn't actually see me as a friend? Or am I reading too much into it?
AIBU?
AIBU to think this was a little off?
CrapBag · 10/05/2013 21:28
"I hate "you know what I'm like" people; as if it's somehow cute and engaging to be plain fucking rude."
Oh yes I am with you on this one! 
I think maybe she does have some reason and I don't know what it is. I have an inkling. We went away on a hen do last year and I am a stupid drunk that gets carried away (not cheating or anything like that) but I sensed her disapproval. She is a sensible type whereas I can be a bit wild once I have had a drink (the once in a blue moon it happens). I could be completely wrong on that though. No one else seems to care or disapprove.
Her reasons (if there is one) doesn't bother me. Its her problem, not mine.
Only issue could be that friend B is a good friend of mine and if she arranges any get togethers, she will include friend A, although I get the feeling that they have been doing quite a lot more without me anyway. I have other friends so am not bothered. Just wondering if I was being over sensitive. Sometimes I read things very wrongly.
'Sometimes I read things very wrongly.'
I shouldn't be answering because I have trouble with this too
If you might be meeting up with her at some point with Friend B then it's probably not a good idea to ask her about the bike then.
Is it something you can ignore and just keep at a friendly but distant-ish level? (given you've been thinking about it for a few days)
No, not being over-sensitive at all. It's almost as if she's going out of her way to piss you off, tbh, in a way which is hard to confront and mostly invisible to others.
So what did you do when you were pissed then OP? Straddle her and sing 'Dirrrrrrrrrrrrty'? Do something unmentionable in her handbag?
Squirted I didn't know she had one. I didn't tell her that I didn't know anyone with one, that was me telling everyone in my OP. When she suggested I try and borrow one, I didn't want to say "great idea but I don't know anyone with one" so I nodded politely and said it was a good idea, whilst thinking that I don't know anyone with them. 10 minutes later, I found out that I did know someone with one.
She would have no idea whatsoever that I was annoyed about the weekend away. She won't have thought she has done anything wrong, although others all said "what she didn't contact you" when they found out she wasn't going, like they thought it was rude as well.
Lemon it was nothing to her, she was just stood there at the time. 
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Did anyone else balk a little over your antics OP? Really curious now
But honestly, rowdy drunken behaviour, probably the like of which we've all done, shouldn't make her feel justified in being a cold judgey bastard.
Phase her right out. Arrange to see friend B on your own and let it all fall into a natural pattern where you just say hello nicely to friend A when you happen to meet, and then glide past her.
No Lemon, they laugh at me really. Apparently they love my drunk personality. I have said this means they don't like me sober though.
I am just very happy, up for anything type. If there is a dare to be done (hen night style) then basically people would come to me. Although I can be a bit stupid too.
It doesn't paint me in a good light but whatever, I was hammered. Group of stags were asking if nipples were brown or pink. Me being me had no idea so I just showed them. Whoops. Got the distinct impression that my friend disapproved.
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