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Lessthanaballpark Fri 10-May-13 17:05:42

the Ohio situation was "a sexual fantasy for both sides"

OTOH I want to think IABU because I see this person regularly and he's an otherwise lovely person and of course he was only joking but OTOH it made me feel physically sick and uncomfortable.

CheerfulYank Fri 10-May-13 17:07:06

Why would anyone say that?

Fenton Fri 10-May-13 17:08:42


That is not a 'joke'. He is not a lovely person to think or utter that.

Chipschipschips Fri 10-May-13 17:10:13

YABU, it would only be inappropriate if he said to the victims or those close to them.

TakingTheStairs Fri 10-May-13 17:14:34


It is insensitive and disgusting. Even if it is not said directly to the victims or those close to them, you never know who has experienced abuse in their lives and how it may upset someone, so any sort of "joke" about any kind of abuse/rape is in very poor taste.

Fenton Fri 10-May-13 17:15:28

I strongly disagree Chips, it's inappropriate to even think it IMO.

Those poor girls.

pleasestoptalking Fri 10-May-13 17:17:00

I think that reveals quite a sinister way of thinking to be honest. You should have pulled him up on it at the time.

These women were children when they were abducted and were routinely raped and violently abused. I would have a serious sense of humour failure about that.

At the very least it shows a lack of compassion and human empathy.

NoelHeadbands Fri 10-May-13 17:17:16

I'm not sure how you get a joke out of that ?

SchroSawMargeryDaw Fri 10-May-13 17:17:53

Chips Are you being serious? Do you actually think it's okay to say that about victims of kidnap, imprisonment and rape?

YANBU - That's just not a joke, it's sick.

Chipschipschips Fri 10-May-13 17:18:15

Well obviously "those poor girls" but there's nothing wrong with making a joke about appalling things.

Chipschipschips Fri 10-May-13 17:19:44

"At the very least it shows a lack of compassion and human empathy."

Ridiculous statement.

zippey Fri 10-May-13 17:19:46

I would find that comment distasteful. However, one comment does not a personality make, it may have been an off-moment.

Fairypants Fri 10-May-13 17:20:28

I'm sorry to say but I wouldn't look at anyone the same who could say such a thing and think it was funny. It suggests to me there is some moral fibre missing.

SchroSawMargeryDaw Fri 10-May-13 17:20:58

Chips Please explain how what the OP has said could even be described as a joke?

Fenton Fri 10-May-13 17:21:12

Chips you are the one being ridiculous.

Are you a Frankie Boyle fan by any chance?

MardyBra Fri 10-May-13 17:21:48

Of course it's inappropriate and, frankly, quite sick.

Chips - are you Bernard Manning?

OnTheBottomWithAWomansWeekly Fri 10-May-13 17:22:07

Chips but it's not a funny joke - basically it's just saying that the girls were enjoying it? Rape apologist anyone?

(and I have definitely laughed at inappropriate jokes that were actually humourous, this one is just, yuk)

wannabedomesticgoddess Fri 10-May-13 17:22:09

I wouldnt be speaking to him again tbh. Its incomprehensible how wrong that "joke" is.

MardyBra Fri 10-May-13 17:22:13

x post with Fenton. grin

SchroSawMargeryDaw Fri 10-May-13 17:22:16

Fenton I don't even think Frankie Boyle would call that particular comment a joke!

OnTheBottomWithAWomansWeekly Fri 10-May-13 17:22:16


OnTheBottomWithAWomansWeekly Fri 10-May-13 17:23:10

Also there are some situations that aren't really joke material, this one is probably one of them

Alisvolatpropiis Fri 10-May-13 17:23:19


There's nothing funny about that situation. Would take a pretty weird person to think there was.

Fenton Fri 10-May-13 17:26:52

grin Mardy

I wanted to say 'are you Frankie Boyle?' but thought it might count as a PA.

grimbletart Fri 10-May-13 17:27:20

Yes Chips - must be hilarious joking about women being punched in the stomach to miscarry the rapist's babies. Jeez, what are you on?

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