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To want to follow my dream?

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SlumberingDormouse · 08/05/2013 22:47

Long story short, I'm struggling to get a job in my chosen profession. I've been looking for 6 months, had 3 final round interviews and been told each time that the job is not challenging enough for me and that I'd be bored. I am interested in this profession and feel that I would be good at and quite enjoy it, but if I'm honest with myself it's not what I really want to do. I have wanted to be an entrepreneur my whole life but feel that my parents have done a really good job of putting me off it.

I've already run a few small businesses in my spare time that have done well but aren't scalable; however, I have lots of other ideas. The profession I'm currently trying to break into is my mother's profession; I live with her and feel like she still has a great deal of influence over me. To be fair, she has also helped me to pursue this career and paid for my professional exams. We are close and in general I am very grateful for her support. However, she doesn't approve of me starting my own business, saying I'm too young and I should do it later. But I don't want to do something else if I'm 'just biding my time' as my DP puts it (although the job I'm currently aiming for is, in my opinion, the best of the rest).

It's got to the point where I am feeling very depressed about this and have been crying every day about it. I suppose part of me is still very frightened of giving up on a 'steady paycheck' to start my own business with all the risks that it entails - but I feel absolutely driven to do it and to be honest, can't imagine doing anything else.

What should I do? How can I broach this with my mother?

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SpecialAgentTattooedQueen · 08/05/2013 22:58

I have a similar relationship with my DM. She helped me and protected me for so long that when I became an adult she lost sight of boundaries. (TBF though in my case there were also MH issues at play.)

Follow your dream!!!!!! One life and all that.

Calmly say to your mum that this is your choice and you want her support even if she disagrees, as you are close and she loves you. Thank her for all she's done for you -Really push that point-
Any mistakes you make along the way will be learning curves and as an adult, you will deal with them yourself. If she argues with you, simply parrot 'if you don't respect my choice, let's not talk about it.'

I didn't word that my very best but I hope you see where I'm coming from? Enforcing boundaries is what kept my relationship with DM as special as when I was younger. She needs to respect you're an adult now.