To want to ask for Friday off work as it's my mum's birthday

[StickEmWithThePointyEnd]

And she died last November?

Not having a good week.

[maxpower]

Definitely NU. it'd be good if you felt able to take the time to remember her and celebrate her life.

[HollyBerryBush]

Do you have to give a reason to take a days leave?

[Floralnomad]

Personally from the tone of your post I wouldn't ask for a day off I'd go off sick . Take care of yourself X

[StrangeGlue]

Can you not just ask for the day off without giving a reason? If I was your boss and you told me your op I'd give you the day off

Sorry for your loss

[StickEmWithThePointyEnd]

Asking for Friday off would be classed as short notice so I'd need to give an "important" reason for needing it. I would have booked it earlier but didn't think I'd need to take the day off as I have been ok for a couple of months now. But all this week I've been having awful dreams about her and am just generally tears. I keep remembering the moment my sister told me she was dead over the phone and its so vivid, I remember every detail.

[StuntGirl]

If you think they'll question it or deny it then just call in sick. I have been in your position and I understand the emotional turmoil. Look after yourself

[MrsMcEnroe]

Phone in sick.

So sorry for your loss, I've lost both my parents and it is shit, the grief can strike at random times. It's only been a few months since your mum passed away; be kind to yourself and take the time you need to remember her and to deal with how you're feeling x

[Catmint]

Another one suggesting you call in sick. You need this time to grieve, and to protect your mental health.

[Shutupanddrive]

If you have an understanding boss, and you know someone could cover your shift then ask, otherwise phone in sick. It's only one day, don't feel bad, you sound like you need it

[mrsjay]

take a sick day lovey you sound sad

[maddening]

So is your boss sympathetic generally? Do you have quotas/limits for number of people off and how do the currently booked holidays compare to that?

[Damash12]

Aww I really understand what you are going through. I lost my mum 2 years ago and it was her birthday on Monday. Luckily I am onager nitty leave but last year I booked the day off. It's very hard and it is very early days for you. It does get easier but even now I get upset. Take care of yourself and feel free to inbox me if you want too.

[DeskPlanner]

I'd phone in sick to be honest. Take care.

[Iggi101]

You are sick, as in you are not physically or emotionally able to work.
It might be easier giving a "dodgy tummy" type reason to work, but don't think that you are not entitled to a sick day - mental health is as important as physical surely.