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To be a bit miffed I wasn't invited?

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ALittleBitOfMagic Tue 07-May-13 22:26:33

SiL is going away for a working holiday tomorrow for 4 months . I'm actually pretty gutted I will miss her terribly we are very close . Or so I thought anyway . I found out tonight she was out for a farewell dinner with my sister and my cousin (they all sort of run in the same circle - with little sub-groups iyswim) . Actually miffed isn't really the word I'm actually a quite hurt . I don't think she would have not asked me on purpose I think she just didn't think to ask me which makes me very sad

Genuinely don't know if I'm being oversensitive and dramatic being upset by it .

snuffaluffagus Tue 07-May-13 22:28:57

No I would be upset in that situation too.

CocacolaMum Tue 07-May-13 22:29:15

aww I think I would be hurt too x

pigletmania Tue 07-May-13 22:49:17

Yanbu I would be very hurt too, I would causally ask her how her fair well meal went

pigletmania Tue 07-May-13 22:49:38

And see her reaction.

chickydoo Tue 07-May-13 22:55:34

Ask her why you weren't invited.

timidviper Tue 07-May-13 22:57:01

I would be hurt too. Sorry.

CelticPixie Tue 07-May-13 22:58:39

No, I'd feel hurt by that too. Maybe ask why you weren't invited?

ALittleBitOfMagic Tue 07-May-13 23:00:36

I can't ask her now thats her away . She came up for about half an hour to see us and the DCs and then went to finish packing she's leaving during the night . I found out about last night after she had left and I don't want to text her and spoil tonight for her I really don't want her to leave with us on bad terms either .

I will definitely ask my sister though when I see her .

thebody Tue 07-May-13 23:01:36

Ah thats upsetting. Ask your sister why she didn't mention it to you.

CelticPixie Tue 07-May-13 23:03:44

I think that sometimes when people leave others out its more because they've just not thought to ask you rather than out of nastiness. But its still hurtful.

starfishmummy Tue 07-May-13 23:09:32

Who arranged it? If it was your sister or cousin then it might not be sil's choice that you weren't there.
But still hurtful.

newbiefrugalgal Tue 07-May-13 23:09:42

That's just mean.

ALittleBitOfMagic Tue 07-May-13 23:11:40

I don't know who arranged it tbh . If it was my sister I wouldn't be surprised she left me out . Shes quite thoughtless like that .

andubelievedthat Tue 07-May-13 23:12:55

Its only mean if done with mean in mind i.e. deliberately mean,which sounds unlikely(imo)

ALittleBitOfMagic Wed 08-May-13 10:50:38

I don't think it was done in a mean way either and I think they just didn't think to invite me . Sometimes I think they just see me as sister/SiL rather than friend which really makes me sad because I class them as my friends . I feel like they just see me as the woman who gave birth to their niece and nephew .

I see SiL loads at least once a week sometimes two or three times . I joke that Shes part of the furniture in my house . I was really upset when she left last night I'm going to really miss her .

Bricklestick Wed 08-May-13 11:07:51

If my SiL invited me to something like this, I'd think she'd gone a bit insane, tbh. I like her a lot, but wouldn't think to be included in something like this.

Besides which, you have no idea if her friend's arranged this or not.

It was a friends dinner you are family. You see her all the time and she went out of her way to come to your house and say goodbye, I think you are being a bit over sensitive tbh.

Hazelbrowneyes Wed 08-May-13 11:15:44

I'd be upset too. Big hugs xx

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Wed 08-May-13 11:26:17

Did she perhaps think it would be awkward to invite you but not your DH?
Was it at short notice, could you have got a babysitter?
Are your sister and cousin closer in age to her than you?

Sorry, floundering here for explanations, it's not nice to feel left out.

ALittleBitOfMagic Wed 08-May-13 17:56:48

brickle her friends are my sister and cousin so not exactly strangers to me .

donkey yes they are they are all within 2 years age-wise with each other - I'm 4 years older .

I just thought we were more than SiLs that we were friends . She has texted me today thought so maybe I am being oversensitive .

thistlelicker Wed 08-May-13 18:07:00

Ask your sister! I'd be upset too! Especially if you all socialise together.

C999875 Fri 10-May-13 13:05:06

No U.N.B.U. I would be upset as well. As childish as this seems it hurts to feel left out. xx

Maggie111 Fri 10-May-13 17:32:50

I would be very upset - fuck 'em.

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