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to think this is just bloody rude?

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ginmakesitallok Sat 04-May-13 15:49:16

We're taking family out for dinner tonight. Do wanted to go Italian, I thought it would be a bit expensive so we booked local place instead. Dbil texted to say we couldn't go to where we'd booked as he thought owner is an arse. So we book Italian instead. Mil then says, "oh, can't we go somewhere nicer?"

I was brought up to believe that if someone is taking you out you are just grateful and don't moan about it? (Italian place is lovely, mil just thinks it's wrong to pay for some pasta and sauce...)

neighbourhoodwitch Sat 04-May-13 15:53:26

Yes, appallingly rude IMO.

KittyAndTheFontanelles Sat 04-May-13 15:54:22

Are you paying? Cheeky snatches. shock They should be grateful you are being so generous.

Take me, I'm very appreciative grin Is puttanesca on the menu? smile

TigOldBitties Sat 04-May-13 15:54:44

Kind of rude, but you're family so I wouldn't think so. Although if you're not that close then yes it's rude.

TheVermiciousKnid Sat 04-May-13 15:55:17

Leave your mother in law at home and take me instead. I always appreciate a good Italian.

Hassled Sat 04-May-13 15:56:33

Tell MIL it won't be a jar of Dolmio and a pack of dried pasta grin.

Yes, very rude - and actually I had this conversation recently with DS2 who was wingeing about the choice of restaurant PILs were taking us to recently. I pointed out if someone is buying you a meal then you eat it and are grateful - but then DS2 is 14, not an adult.

ginmakesitallok Sat 04-May-13 15:57:05

Yes we're paying, and taking 10 of them so not going to be bloody cheap. When mil mentioned that she thought it was silly to pay for pasta I'm ashamed to say I replied, "well, you're not paying are you?"

ginmakesitallok Sat 04-May-13 15:58:35

No ice cream for mil....

magimedi Sat 04-May-13 15:59:00

Wouldn't be ashamed at all to have said that, gin (love your nn). I'm usually v. pro the MILs (I'll be one in 3 weeks) but that is just plain bad manners.

ImTooHecsyForYourParty Sat 04-May-13 16:00:03

I would have been tempted to say the same!

What did she reply to that?

ginmakesitallok Sat 04-May-13 16:01:08

I'm usually pro mil too, she's usually Fab. She didn't say anything, just asked what time we were picking her up.

KittyAndTheFontanelles Sat 04-May-13 16:04:26

ha ha ha cracking answer grin

So what time are you picking me up? hmm

Maryz Sat 04-May-13 16:05:40

Why on earth are you paying shock?

Have them all to your house and have a takeaway. And then divide up the bill.

ginmakesitallok Sat 04-May-13 16:06:03

Back of 5 kitty, where are you?

ginmakesitallok Sat 04-May-13 16:07:34

We're paying as it's partly for dp's birthday and partly to celebrate a wee windfall (much of which will be spent on dinner)

Maryz Sat 04-May-13 16:10:06

Oh dear.

They will order from the a la carte menu and drink expensive wine, won't they sad. And then complain about it.

I'd get a sudden-onset-stomach bug if I was you.

ginmakesitallok Sat 04-May-13 16:37:03

Yes dbil will have steak, and they'll order wine and they'll all have starters AND dessert...

Maryz Sat 04-May-13 17:06:36

I sympathise.

I would never offer to pay for a meal out for my brother for that reason. It would annoy me too much <cheapskate emoticon>

natwebb79 Sat 04-May-13 17:56:04

Is it too late to book the local Pizza Hut instead??

LookingForwardToMarch Sat 04-May-13 18:00:12

Nope that is just plain rude!

Personally I'd just be happy someone was feeding me!

piprabbit Sat 04-May-13 18:01:45

So you are paying for dinner and doing taxi service? You are saints.

very rude! if they dont like it, they dont go! simple! grin

Maryz Sat 04-May-13 18:26:26

How is the stomach upset?

grin

ginmakesitallok Sat 04-May-13 18:29:55

As suspected he's had steak....

StuntGirl Sat 04-May-13 18:41:33

Why on earth would you waste even a penny of a windfall on such ungrateful people, let alone spend most of it on them? <baffled>

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