AIBU about dp's brother being 3 hours (and counting) late for lunch

[jussey17]

It is mil's 70th birthday weekend. I have been running around all week preparing for their arrival and the aforementioned brother and fiancé.
The parents duly arrived at 12 brother still to arrive as slept in! All meals veggy for the fiancé. Quite pissed off.

[Littlefish]

Rude, rude, rude behaviour. What time did you say you were eating? I would just go ahead and eat without them.

[ImTooHecsyForYourParty]

I hope you aren't waiting for him before you eat!

[Hassled]

I'd be apoplectic.

Can you get MIL out for a nice walk somewhere so when they roll up there's no-one home?

[jussey17]

And another thing we have now been stuck in all day with a restless 3year old waiting for the brother.

[Littlefish]

Eat and go out. When he arrives, your dh needs to have an extremely firm word with him about his apalling behaviour. How old is he (not that it should make a difference).

[ImTooHecsyForYourParty]

Why on earth are you waiting for him?

Sod him.

Eat.

Go out.

He has only himself to blame.

[LIZS]

Eat now , you must all be starving. Oversleeping doesn't explain a 3+ hour wait .

[SodaStreamy]

12 is quite early for a lunch on a Saturday, that's breakfast in my house

how old are they were they out last night? How far away do they live?

Surely you would have been stuck in all day anyway serving lunch

Annoying though, make a roast and give the bil and finance a carrot each. They not be late again

[trikken]

I'd eat without them but plate theirs up just in case they turn up mid meal.

[LIZS]

Sad that bil couldn't prioritise his mum's bday over a night out or use an alarm clock. They will probably have eaten on the way now anyway.

[DontmindifIdo]

eat without them! I'd not wait 3 hours, if you said what time you'd be serving food, they have clearly missed lunch and can now wait until dinner, or can the food wait and be served at 5 as DC friendly tea time, you all having a snack to keep you going and go out?

Has toddler had lunch?

[SkinnybitchWannabe]

Yep, eat without them.

[eggsandwich]

Don't get me started on this one. Every time my Mil, Sil and Bil come to visit they are always late. Last visit they were two and half hours late as it turned out Bil was doing some jobs for Mil, which I wasn't told about until Dh mentioned it when I said to him they were very late I hope they are alright. Not to mention the fact that we were waiting to eat, and the food ended up over cooked. Funny thing though was when Sil and Bil were late to Mil to do more jobs, she was ringing round to find out where they were and moaning that they were late. Bloody rude

[StuntGirl]

Oh good god, I hope you ate the meal without them and carried on with your day.

[LIZS]

Hope they turned up eventually, suitably apologetic.

[jussey17]

Things didn't improve when they did arrive. Bil's fiancé (who we were meeting for the first time) proceeded to behave like my ds's mother. Complementing his eating and completely usurping me. As we have dad an ongoing eating problem for over two years including dealing with a child psychologist I know this is a really sensitive area for me, but found a stranger attending to my child in an overbearing and IMO very unhelpful way hugely stressful. I couldn't wait for them to leave. My dp never wants to see his brother again, and he is the most easy going person I have ever met.

[LIZS]

sorry to hear that . Did MIL enjoy her bday or was this too irritating all round . How late were they ?

[jussey17]

Mil seemed oblivious to the awful atmosphere and is so used to her first born son's contemptuous behaviour it barely registered. We had a goodish time after bil left though am still cross and unsettled by this woman's overbearing behaviour.i should be more sympathetic as its very clear she is desperate for a baby and bil is just a sperm donor. But a toe curlingly terrible weekend which has left a very sour after taste.