To think that it's weird that friends teenage son wants to come out with us?

[Charliefox]

So it's a civilised night out for me and a friend tonight. 2 middle aged friends going for a drink and a catch up at a local pub and I get a text to say, do you mind if teenage son comes too. He's a lovely guy but its a girls night out. It's not the first time either. He's just a regular guy, with his own mates and a good job, so why on earth he wants to spend his Friday evening with his mum and her mate is beyond me. AIBU? I feel churlish if I text back to say, well, yes, actually, I do mind.

[JamieandtheMagicTorch]

How old?

[yaimee]

How old is he? Old enough for the pub?
Maybe he fancies you :D

[SirChenjin]

I think it's weird, and I'm pretty sure my teenager DS would run a mile if I suggested to him that he might like to come out with me and my friend

Oooh, maybe it's like Yaimee says, maybe he fancies you!

[pinkpaws]

Hi i think you have have to face it the boy is having a mrs jones moment lol enjoy it . I am sure its harmless .

[StuntGirl]

I think its a bit weird too. Perhaps reply with "I was really looking forward to a girls night out, perhaps he can join us another time".

[BarnYardCow]

Was just thinking the same, along the lines of Harry Styles.Bit of a conversation limiter though :(

[yaimee]

I think stunt is right, that's the best way to deal with it!

[BackforGood]

YANBU. That is odd. I'd do what Stunt suggests.

[teenagetantrums]

how old is he? my DS 19 will sometimes come to the pub when I meet my friends esp the ones he has known all his life, but he rocks up to get a free pint or two then goes on his way. lately I have taken my DD 16 with me when I go out with friends for a quick drink they know her, she is having a hard time at school being bullied and has no friends at the mo, I feel she needs some support but my friends are happy to have her. wouldn't take either of them if it was a catch up girlie night with a friend I don't see often , have you asked why she wants to bring him?

[Charliefox]

He's 18. Yes, conversation limiter is exactly it! I've known him since he was 2 yrs old. Shouldn't he be out with his mates on a Friday night though!!

[Footface]

Maybe he's lonely?

[NewAtThisMalarky]

I don't think it's wierd. I enjoy my teenage children's company and we go to gigs - comedy and music - together. In sure once they are age to go to the pub I'd happily have them along with me.

I'm surprised that it's seen as something peculiar, tbh.

[Charliefox]

I know why she wants to bring him. They're mates, he's fab and lovely and it's great that he gets on so well with his mum and her mates aka me. It's just the conversation limiter aspect. Meh, what the hell, he's coming anyways, so nowt I can about it.

[Charliefox]

Maybe I am being a bit churlish then.

[NewAtThisMalarky]

I don't think YABU to not want him there - but that wasn't your question

(just to make my position clear)

[Annunziata]

My sons are the biggest mamma's boys out and even they would dread coming, YANBU.

[teenagetantrums]

no yanbu if you don't want him there why don't you tell your friend, as I have said my teenagers do come out with me and my mates but if my friends said no I want to talk without teenagers present I would leave them at home, also I don't limit the conversation with the teenagers there, they soon leave if you start with the sex conversation..

[ZenNudist]

Perhaps he's broke?

[Iggi101]

Same as bringing a partner out surely, not always appropriate no matter how nice they are!

[Beamur]

I'd take it as a compliment that he enjoys his Mums and her friends company.

[DeskPlanner]

He looooooves you !

[BackforGood]

However nice he is. However much he gets on with either OP, or his Mum, the point is, it completely changes the dynamics of what's been arranged.
If OP were hosting a BBQ for 25 people and the son wanted to come along, then it wouldn't alter the dynamics in the same way, as it's a big group thing, but what was arranged was a quiet drink and a long chat with two old friends. Totally inappropriate to invite a 3rd person along, whoever they are.

[MadBusLady]

I'd think he was a well-adjusted, sensible young man who enjoyed mixing socially with a range of people. But YANBU to want a girls' night out, if that is what you'd planned.

[JerseySpud]

I don't find it that weird tbh, i used to go out with my mum to the pub sometimes for a drink and once i went clubbing with her (Had to be to oldfogeyplace Flares though)