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To think that it's weird that friends teenage son wants to come out with us?

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Charliefox Fri 03-May-13 18:17:06

So it's a civilised night out for me and a friend tonight. 2 middle aged friends going for a drink and a catch up at a local pub and I get a text to say, do you mind if teenage son comes too. He's a lovely guy but its a girls night out. It's not the first time either. He's just a regular guy, with his own mates and a good job, so why on earth he wants to spend his Friday evening with his mum and her mate is beyond me. AIBU? I feel churlish if I text back to say, well, yes, actually, I do mind.

JamieandtheMagicTorch Fri 03-May-13 18:18:57

How old?

yaimee Fri 03-May-13 18:19:07

How old is he? Old enough for the pub?
Maybe he fancies you :D

SirChenjin Fri 03-May-13 18:21:05

I think it's weird, and I'm pretty sure my teenager DS would run a mile if I suggested to him that he might like to come out with me and my friend grin

Oooh, maybe it's like Yaimee says, maybe he fancies you!

pinkpaws Fri 03-May-13 18:22:43

Hi i think you have have to face it the boy is having a mrs jones moment lol enjoy it . I am sure its harmless .

StuntGirl Fri 03-May-13 18:23:03

I think its a bit weird too. Perhaps reply with "I was really looking forward to a girls night out, perhaps he can join us another time".

BarnYardCow Fri 03-May-13 18:23:45

Was just thinking the same, along the lines of Harry Styles.Bit of a conversation limiter though sad

yaimee Fri 03-May-13 18:25:47

I think stunt is right, that's the best way to deal with it!

BackforGood Fri 03-May-13 18:32:23

YANBU. That is odd. I'd do what Stunt suggests.

teenagetantrums Fri 03-May-13 18:37:46

how old is he? my DS 19 will sometimes come to the pub when I meet my friends esp the ones he has known all his life, but he rocks up to get a free pint or two then goes on his way. lately I have taken my DD 16 with me when I go out with friends for a quick drink they know her, she is having a hard time at school being bullied and has no friends at the mo, I feel she needs some support but my friends are happy to have her. wouldn't take either of them if it was a catch up girlie night with a friend I don't see often , have you asked why she wants to bring him?

Charliefox Fri 03-May-13 18:58:18

He's 18. Yes, conversation limiter is exactly it! I've known him since he was 2 yrs old. Shouldn't he be out with his mates on a Friday night though!!

Footface Fri 03-May-13 18:59:16

Maybe he's lonely?

NewAtThisMalarky Fri 03-May-13 19:01:25

I don't think it's wierd. I enjoy my teenage children's company and we go to gigs - comedy and music - together. In sure once they are age to go to the pub I'd happily have them along with me.

I'm surprised that it's seen as something peculiar, tbh.

Charliefox Fri 03-May-13 19:01:35

I know why she wants to bring him. They're mates, he's fab and lovely and it's great that he gets on so well with his mum and her mates aka me. It's just the conversation limiter aspect. Meh, what the hell, he's coming anyways, so nowt I can about it.

Charliefox Fri 03-May-13 19:02:23

Maybe I am being a bit churlish then.

NewAtThisMalarky Fri 03-May-13 19:05:20

I don't think YABU to not want him there - but that wasn't your question

(just to make my position clear)

Annunziata Fri 03-May-13 19:07:42

My sons are the biggest mamma's boys out and even they would dread coming, YANBU.

teenagetantrums Fri 03-May-13 19:25:25

no yanbu if you don't want him there why don't you tell your friend, as I have said my teenagers do come out with me and my mates but if my friends said no I want to talk without teenagers present I would leave them at home, also I don't limit the conversation with the teenagers there, they soon leave if you start with the sex conversation..

ZenNudist Fri 03-May-13 19:27:04

Perhaps he's broke?

Iggi101 Fri 03-May-13 19:44:40

Same as bringing a partner out surely, not always appropriate no matter how nice they are!

Beamur Fri 03-May-13 19:48:01

I'd take it as a compliment that he enjoys his Mums and her friends company.

DeskPlanner Fri 03-May-13 19:49:53

He looooooves you ! grin

BackforGood Fri 03-May-13 19:53:47

However nice he is. However much he gets on with either OP, or his Mum, the point is, it completely changes the dynamics of what's been arranged.
If OP were hosting a BBQ for 25 people and the son wanted to come along, then it wouldn't alter the dynamics in the same way, as it's a big group thing, but what was arranged was a quiet drink and a long chat with two old friends. Totally inappropriate to invite a 3rd person along, whoever they are.

MadBusLady Fri 03-May-13 19:55:47

I'd think he was a well-adjusted, sensible young man who enjoyed mixing socially with a range of people. smile But YANBU to want a girls' night out, if that is what you'd planned.

JerseySpud Fri 03-May-13 19:56:18

I don't find it that weird tbh, i used to go out with my mum to the pub sometimes for a drink and once i went clubbing with her (Had to be to oldfogeyplace Flares though)

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