NCing regular in case this outs me!
This may be a bit long but I want to give as much info as possible! We live in a 3-bed house (1 double, 1 single and a box room). We have DS, 19mo, and DC2 due in December. DH's family live dotted around the country. In the 12 years we've been together, we've heard from one aunt sporadically (think phone call twice a year and a card at Christmas), another aunt even less (no calls ever, no cards at Christmas or when DS was born, we do send cards to her) and an uncle rarely - uncle is a bit of a hippy globetrotter who is perfectly happy sleeping on the sofa on his very rare (5/6 in 12 years) short-notice visits. DFIL visits maybe 3 or 4 times a year and stays either in his camper van or with DSIL in a nearby town.
At present, we have the double room, DS has his cotbed in the single, and the box room is a study. There's a futon in DS's room which we brought with us from a previous, bigger house, but not enough floor space to actually fold it out IYSWIM. When DC2 arrives and reaches the right age to be in his/her own room, I'd like to convert the study into a nursery, moving the cotbed in there and buying DS a big boy bed. DH is adamant he wants to use the study as a spare room, and put 6mo DC 2 in with DS - have the cot bed and a set of bunk beds (with DS in bottom bunk until DC2 moves out of cot bed, then he moves up). He's spoken to no-one who's put kids of a similar age in together, and thinks his relatives will visit more if we have somewhere for them to sleep. He also thinks more friends will visit if we have a spare room - no friends visit, ever and we only have one set that don't live in the same city anyway.
Which of us is BU, as neither of us is budging! I've said to DH if he investigates a bit more about the potential pros/cons of 2 young DCs in the same room I might be willing to discuss it further, but his entire argument is 'we always had a spare room growing up, I want one. '
PS - I know in the grand scheme of things this is petty so please don't point this out! I know people have worse problems, etc. etc. but this is what's bothering me right now!
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Wheelsonthepram · 02/05/2013 20:08
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