Hi! :) I'm new here!
Im married, have a 3 year old lg and im almost 27 weeks pregnant (ARGHHH!) with our 2nd lg :)
Now, before i ask your advice, there is SO much more to this..honestly..just so much more.
RIGHT!
For the past 4ish years, my OH has been picking his mother up on a weekday afternoon..bringing her to our house to see our lg and taking her home.
He is a postman and works full time, finished work at latest 2 o'clock.
She works part time, doesn't drive, uses buses every day to get to and from work, live about 10 mins car ride away.
(Our lg isn't allowed to go to his moms as she smokes and refuses to not smoke around our lg, so she comes to our house)
My hubby has done this constantly, every week unless she cancels (which is alot) if he cannot pick her up for any reason, we had the whole gilt trip about how we're stopping her seeing her grandchild..she doesn't see her enough..blachblahblah...so we change days/cancels plans so he can pick her up to come to our house.
We have made every effort, from inviting her to places, taking and picking her up, taking her shopping to buy our lgs christmas/birthday presents, allsorts.
Recently hubby has got a promotion at work (woo ) which means more hours at work..so he isn't finishing till lateish...so he can't pick his mom up as he's not finishing early anymore...ive got spd, not so great..and our lg is in the process of starting Nursery..things are abit hectic!
My MIL and FIL have gotten a car..they have had it now for about a week..they can only come down in the car on a saturday due to my FIL's work..and some saturdays he can't come down as he has another job.
We have asked his mom if she would catch the bus down on a weekday afternoon (he would take her home) when they cannot come down on a saturday..this isn't good enough for her as she doesn't want to catch the bus (she is 41 btw, not old, not disabled) the bus stops near enough outside our house, its 30 minute bus ride max!
My hubby gets 1 day off in the week where we do something..just me, him and our lg like take her to a farm or a day out..just "us 3 time"
My MIL has asked if on his day off instead of "us" doing something he can pick her up from work about 1...take her home..then come to our house which i think is VERY cheeky considering they've had the car for a week now and havn't even popped down to see our lg!
Hubby said no, as its his only day off and he wants to spend it with us, which tbh, i don't see anything wrong with.
So instead of not catching the bus..she's now going 3 weeks without seeing our lg and coming down a few saturdays away when her husband can bring her all beacuse she can't be bothered to make the effort to catch the bus.
How would you feel about this? My husband has bent over backwards for her and there's no effort on her side, at all.
Shall i just allow it and let it go? I just think that all the rubbish she has said about how much she wants to see our lg and she would "walk to the hospital..even if it was at 3am when she was born just to see her" (she was born at 1am, and no, she didn't come to the hospital :'))
she obviously doesn't want to see her that much.
It feels like she's picking and dropping my daughter when she can bothered, or when its easy for her.
Any advice would be great..there is alot more to this story..this is the recent issue. x
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MommyBird · 01/05/2013 21:28
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