There are quite a few families with children living over the road from me on our development. One family are pleasant and distantly friendly with five kids of varying ages who come over to play with my 3 yr old. The kids range from 5 to 10.
Until now this has been fine. I don't mind then in my house/ garden, they play nicely with my DD and are good kids in general. Lately, however it has become more of a struggle because I am heavily pregnant, due in two days, and don't feel great. When they come over, it tends to be impromptu around 4.30-5pm, they require supervision, often want me to 'play' with them and lately have started asking for food and drink. They don't go home when they say will, don't leave when asked nicely and are becoming quite demanding in terms of activities. They exhaust me.
They also tell me their mum tells them to come over for an hour or so as she needs to get housework done or needs a break. It is starting to piss me off as she KNOWS I am near my due date as I physically walked them over the road the other day and told her I was having pains and needed the kids to go home. She was nice about it but tbf I don't think she has a huge amount of control over them. Added to the fact I really really don't want anyone in the house at the moment. It's possibly to do with pregnancy but I feel really funny about my personal space. I don't even want relatives visiting me at the mo. I just want downtime with my DH and daughter and to get the place ready for our new arrival. I actually feel a bit violated and angry when the kids run all over the house dragging out toys and so on whereas in the past this didn't bother me.
I am finding it hard to say no. They jump on me as soon as I leave the house, ring on the doorbell repeatedly, and look upset when I say no. My dd also gets upset. Even worse another family over the road has started. The oldest two girls, again only 7 and 11, keep knocking wanting to come in. They harder to handle as not greatly well behaved and can be quite cheeky. When I said no the other day, they just sat outside my front door and 'waited'... I feel quite crowded and hounded all of a sudden.
I am being hugely pathetic I know, but I need to know if I am being unreasonable in not letting them in my house for at least a few weeks, and if not, how to explain it to them firmly and kindly.
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Thingiebob · 01/05/2013 15:26
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