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To not want to pay £15 to go to a party?

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Clandy Wed 01-May-13 11:26:13

Friend is having a christening for her little girl in August, on the invite she has asked for £15 ASAP per couple to pay for the food. She has also said no drinks are included so bring your own. Aibu to be annoyed at this? My thoughts are if its a BBQ and she can't afford food, why not ask people to bring a few things but £15 is a lot esp if there is no drinks and its at her house so she isn't paying out for an expensive venue. Also if you can't afford a big party... Don't have one. We couldn't afford to so we didn't have a christening party. I am cross and don't really want to go

olivertheoctopus Wed 01-May-13 22:15:14

Wow, that's rude. I'd be tempted to offer to take something tangible like a salad or a cake rather than cold hard cash.

expatinscotland Wed 01-May-13 22:43:53

Oh, Clandy, get real! She's a complete pisstaker! Don't pay £15 to line her pockets.

Go to the church service, leave a present and check out.

Anyone who does this isn't a mate.

Laquitar Wed 01-May-13 23:18:15

You can pop into my house tomorrow for a cup of tea. That will be £2.50 per head.

Playdate? Thats £10 per head. (pasta prices gone up)

Come to watch my holiday photos. Thats £7 per head.

What else next?

MusicalEndorphins Thu 02-May-13 07:10:38

That is very strange of your friend, do you know her well enough to ask her why she feels the need to throw a party beyond her means?
Since you don't want to go now, don't. Tell her you will be at the church for the baptism but have plans for afterwards. (If she mentions you didn't have plans before say you forgot)

ChocsAwayInMyGob Thu 02-May-13 09:02:46

OP-I like that idea! say "My gift cost £15 so you can just take that off my bill". smile

raisah Thu 02-May-13 09:18:33

Really bad mannered, grabby d & cheeky. Is she going to use the money to get nice food from Tescos / Waitrose or Lidl/ Tesco value & pocket the cash? It looks like a scheme to make a bit of money & get people to pay for a party.

The host should provide food & drink, if she cant afford it then she shouldnt have the party. I suppise she wants you to buy her dd a gift? I cant stand this sense of entitlement that people have. They want everything and dont want to save money for it but expect others to pick up the bill.

She could have asked for people to bring a dish & thats perfectly acceptable. To ask for cash contributions to fund her own party is really ill mannered. I feel the same way about couples who ask guests to pay for their own meals at wedding receptions.

raisah Thu 02-May-13 09:19:58

i meant nice food from m&s and waitrose not tescos and waitrose!

QuintessentialOHara Thu 02-May-13 09:23:02

Yanbu. If she is religious, she will Christen her dd without a party, as Christenings are not about parties, but a religious ceremony.

She is rude and lacking manners. Using her baby to get people to sponsor a party. hmm

expatinscotland Thu 02-May-13 09:28:29

Behind every grabby pisstaker, Clandy, stands a mug. You pay this gal £15, that mug is you.

ENormaSnob Thu 02-May-13 11:08:22

I have just thought of the perfect gift.

A customised tee shirt saying 'baptised in 2013, sponsored by clandy and co'

melika Thu 02-May-13 11:15:29

OMG what is the world coming to?

I have had at least 2 parties a year, all get fed and watered. Some bring drinks because it's something they like specifically.

But to charge, sorry I wouldn't go.

whistleahappytune Thu 02-May-13 11:18:06

Bloody outrageous, and totally antithetical to the idea of a christening, which is about welcoming a new life to the community. This is a terrible start to give a baby!

I can see asking perhaps for people to bring a dish of something or even a bottle, but cash? Rude, rude and beyond rude.

Acandlelitshadow Thu 02-May-13 11:21:05

Cheeky mare shock

Go but take your own picnic grin

cafebistro Thu 02-May-13 11:23:45

Emsmaman - that happened to me too it was NYE of the millennium! Your party wasn't in Liverpool was it?? wink

maddening Thu 02-May-13 13:40:02

Take your own butties and a can of pop smile

Manchesterhistorygirl Thu 02-May-13 13:47:50

You are not being unreasonable!

It's beyond rude.

Dh and I were invited to a big birthday last year and asked to bring food, drink, chair to sit in each and a present!

This was shortly after a birthday party for the dc where we were also asked to bring food, drink and present, but no chair be sue we cold sit outside n the wall!

Same family obviously. Have you ever heard the like?

WandaDoff Thu 02-May-13 13:48:20

What a materialistic arsehole.

She wouldn't be getting any money from me, & she'd be told what a grasping cunt she is as well hmm

ChocsAwayInMyGob Thu 02-May-13 14:51:23

I've got a horrible feeling weddings will go this way in the not too distant future.

ChocsAwayInMyGob Thu 02-May-13 14:51:52

Only the Paypal details will be in rhyming form.

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