Hi
I just wondered if i alone in feeling that I am always in a rush and constantly trying to spin about 27 plates in the air. Is this just motherhood or I am I going wrong somewhere?? Help?
I have 2 kids aged 5 (at school) and a 3 year old.
I work part time as a teacher, on those days the kids have a childminder/ go to nursery.
I have a husband
I have a house
I have parents that are elderly and ill.
All pretty normal I realise, but I just dont seem to able to manage it all. I always feel I am letting someone down. Mostly my mother. Who is constantly disappointed in the lack of time I have to spend with her and doing things with her.
I get up every day at 5.30, on the 3 days I work I go to work and get back about 5- 5.30. By the time I pick up the kids, do reading, tea, bath and bed it is 7.30. I am shattered and barely able to manage an eposide of corry before I go to bed at 9ish.
On the days I dont work in the week I am full on cleaning the house, catching up with washing. Jobs like taking the care for MOT, daughter for vaccine, swimming lessons, taking parents to various medical appointments. I honestly do not sit down. In fact the only time I will sit down is if I pay for dd to do an extra session at nursery so I can catch up with marking or report writing.
At the weekend it does not really feel much better, there is always stuff to do in the house like the garden and cleaning. I feel it important to do interesting things with the kids rather then just putting them in front of the telly. So we will usually go swimming and /or park as a family. There just never seems to be any time for me. And all the time my mum is quizzing me on what I am doing and why I have not been to see her.
The only time I actually get to myself is when I go the hairdressers (once every 6 weeks). Which I am made to feel really guilty about by my Mum; as if I am indulging myself. I would love to go the gym and try to loose some weight but I just dont have the time. I wonder how other people do it? Do I just need more sleep then others?
I have no one to help us with childcare at all. It is just me and dh (other than nursery childminder on school days) so there is no break in waking hours. In the evening I am tied, often have marking and to be honest just want to watch a bit of telly, have tea, or maybe even a shag with my dh. But my mum thinks I should come out to visit her in the evening and makes me feel really guilty about it. She frequently phones and asks me to get her things she does not really need - I feel as a sort of control thing to make me come round.
I have put things in place to save time like having shopping deliveried and ironing sent out. I have thought about getting a cleaner and or gardener but the commitment to pay someone every week is probably more than we can afford.
I should point out my mum has various non terminal health conditions and lives in a lovely care home. All her needs are met. But she is bored. Do you think I am being mean to spend the majority of the very little free time i do get with my kids and dh.
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wendy1969 · 28/04/2013 20:51
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