To think as long as I organise cover why I need/want time off is not my boss' business?

[D0oinMeCleanin]

I found out last night he told my cover I have 'lied to him' about why I wanted the weekend off and tried to say I had to come in tonight because I've had too much time off lately and I'm lazy.

I had one night off just before we closed due to having no childcare after DH was ill. I rarely/never ask for time off.

I work all weekend, every weekend because he won't let any other staff member do the weekend shifts because they are 'too inexperienced' and it's 'too busy' this weekend I put my foot down and said I couldn't work it, so the other staff member had to.

Normally we arrange our owns hours between ourselves, it's just the weekends he won't let her do.

I'm really rather pissed off about being accused of being lazy and lying to him. Not that it's any of his business why I want the weekend off anyway, imo.

[mrsjay]

he sounds a rubbish boss tbh why should you work every weekend are you contracted hours or as you said you all organise the time between the staff,

[LadyMountbatten]

Does he fancy you ?

[SomethingOnce]

He sounds like an arse.

[D0oinMeCleanin]

No, we're not contracted for set hours. When I first started working there we split the weeknd hours, but then the other staff member left and we took on someone 'new', she's been there a year now and he still will not allow her to work weekends.

I've worked them all for over a year now. I want some weekends off to see my family. It's split shifts too, so I can't even do things with the kids and get back for work, it takes over my whole weekend.

[mrsjay]

IS it a takeaway you work I seem to remember you saying it was a take away and they are notorious for taking advantage of staff dd1 lasted 3 months in 1 look for another job it is not worth the hassle they are taking the piss,

[D0oinMeCleanin]

Yes, it's a takeaway.

The other takeaway a few doors up keeps offering me more money to go and work for them, but that would be contracted weekend hours, which I don't want to do.

I might start looking for a new job, which is a shame, I like working there, I just don't like working every weekend. Some or even most weekends, fine, but not every single weekend.

[mrsjay]

well tell the boss you are considering leaving and see what they say if you are valuable to him he should come to an agreement

[SomethingOnce]

A whole year of weekends without the option not to do so is, I agree, taking the piss.

Are you in a position to tell them you will leave unless a more acceptable arrangement can be reached?

If they don't consider this other member of staff competent after a year, they really need to ask some questions about the quality of their in-post training.

[McNewPants2013]

Don't you get any holidays.

[D0oinMeCleanin]

Yes, I get holidays and I haven't used any of them yet, but I don't get the option to book a single weekend as a holiday.

I've talked to DH and I'm going to go in early on my next shift and explain to my boss that unless I get the option to have the odd weekend off then I will need to start looking for a job with more family friendly hours. Even one weekend every other month would be enough, although I'm not going to tell the boss that, I am going to go for every other weekend work my down

[YBR]

I'd be asking the other takeaway what they'd offer you for (say) 3 weekends out of 4 (or whatever suits). Open negotiations!

[D0oinMeCleanin]

Yes, Dh thinks if I went to them and told them I'm interested in the job but only willing to work every 3 weekends they'd be open to negotiation with me. My issue with them is that they seem to go through new staff members like I do clean underwear. There must be a reason why.

They want me because the takeout I work in is the busiest in our town and I have been there 5 years now, so they know I am capable and like long term jobs.

[StuntGirl]

He's behaving very unprofessionally.

I think the idea of going in early to speak to him is a good one, I would also raise the point that he shouldn't be a) badmouthing you to other staff and b) discussing your shift patterns with other staff.

If you are not contracted to work weekends I would tell him you want to alternate weekends between the staff, and ask why the others never work. If he says its because they can't be trusted offer to train them (over a set period of time so it doesn't become permanent!)

Failing that it sounds like you have valuable skills you could offer another employer so if he carries on being a dick I'd look elsewhere!