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To be pissed off PIL looked after baby while I was at work and left me with upset, screaming child

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Mamacj Sat 27-Apr-13 22:16:57

At work this mornin so was dh but he was with dc most of time. Apparently he thought pil did fab jobplayin with dc and really stimulating him. I came home to a screaming tired underfed baby who needed a full outfit change. This was one of the first times they had dc and I had left instructions which they did seem to attempt to follow. Dh can't seem to understand why I think they are useless AIBU???

Pollydon Sat 27-Apr-13 22:18:28


usualsuspect Sat 27-Apr-13 22:18:45


gordyslovesheep Sat 27-Apr-13 22:19:03

OMG they looked after him so you could work, played with him but forgot to keep him look like new in a pristine outfit ...the bastards - leave them

DrGoogleWillSeeYouNow Sat 27-Apr-13 22:19:07


Loshad Sat 27-Apr-13 22:19:30


Freddiemisagreatshag Sat 27-Apr-13 22:20:13


dribbleface Sat 27-Apr-13 22:20:22

Outfit change as in soaking wet/poo covered or just grubby?

AgentZigzag Sat 27-Apr-13 22:20:36

YAB a bit U, if this is their first time that doesn't mean they're useless.

Having them tired out is a good thing isn't it? And a bit of nosh and change of outfit is relatively minor things to fix.

If your DH thought they did a good job of looking after them and he was there, I can understand if he was a bit hmm about you saying his opinion doesn't count.

Could some of it be because it was their first time babysitting and you're a bit on edge about it?

BoundandRebound Sat 27-Apr-13 22:20:52

Yes you are unreasonable

But you'll get over yourself in about 10 years and a couple more kids


picnicbasketcase Sat 27-Apr-13 22:22:34

Bit of both really. Very good of them to look after him obviously. However, it shouldn't be too much to expect that they should any necessary care during that time that you would do, put him down for a nap, feed him, change him etc. It shouldn't be a case of you doing all the same things you would have done during that time, only later.

alwayslateforwork Sat 27-Apr-13 22:23:26

Mm, if you'd been at home playing with him and he got overtired and started bawling just before dh got home, would dh have the right to tell you that you were a crap mother and criticize your lovely day?

Holier than fricking thou.

Babies get mucky, hungry, and bawl. They do that whether super mother has been present or not. Lighten up and say thank you, and get over yourself.

DearPrudence Sat 27-Apr-13 22:23:34

YABU. I know it can be a challenge to accept that other people don't look after you child exactly as you would, but it will cause you a whole lot of stress if you insist on every detail being as you want it.

OriginalRoute Sat 27-Apr-13 22:23:35

YABU May I introduce you to the concept of paid child care, and the difference between it and MASSIVE FAVOUR.

OriginalRoute Sat 27-Apr-13 22:23:35

YABU May I introduce you to the concept of paid child care, and the difference between it and MASSIVE FAVOUR.

sweetestcup Sat 27-Apr-13 22:24:01

You sound nice hmm

alwayslateforwork Sat 27-Apr-13 22:24:17

Especially as you left instructions which they did their best to follow.

morethanpotatoprints Sat 27-Apr-13 22:25:34


I wish we had had family to provide free childcare, sorry but get over yourself. YOUR child, if it bothers you so much look after your own child. angry

freddiemisagreatshag Sat 27-Apr-13 22:26:17

Were they typed instructions, laminated, taped to the fridge?

Seriously. Unclench. Your DH was there, he didn't have a problem. Or isn't he as good a parent as you?

Mamacj Sat 27-Apr-13 22:28:20

Ok I am a bitch! But my mum normally looks after dc. I thought today the PIL could have him but this afternoon drove me mad after they totally tired dv out. My PIL are coming to babysit one evening this week not my idea but I am dreading what I am going to come back to, I know I am bein horrible but does anyone understand- I'll be the one up thro the night dh does nothing

Pollydon Sat 27-Apr-13 22:28:52

Erm, so under feeding a baby is alright then ? O kaaaaay hmm

Pollydon Sat 27-Apr-13 22:31:06

Oh and more than, op was at work, not off on a jolly!

AgentZigzag Sat 27-Apr-13 22:31:19

I'm sure the little mite wasn't a starving wreck when their mum came back Polly grin

Mamacj Sat 27-Apr-13 22:31:41

He was soaking wet and I honestly think it is easier paying for childcare- the adoring grandparents are happy to be involved for a few hours but then leave you all the crap

Mamacj Sat 27-Apr-13 22:33:33

My dh is happy to play super daddy in public but does not in the house that's why he had to have them over today

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