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To be a size 22 and happy with my body

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Lucyellensmum95 Sat 27-Apr-13 21:58:51

I am a size 22 up top - blessed in the nork department and a size 18 on the bottom.

Sometimes i get irritated because i can't find clothes in my size that i like but when i look at my body in the mirror - i like it.

As i say, my top heaviness is due to an ample bosum, which is, for my age pretty firm still.

I have been slimmer, in fact i was a size 10 when i met DP - but that was 20 years ago. Then after i had DD 7 years ago, due to illness i was a size 12 again - miserable, i hated it, my breasts shrunk and i didn't feel like me.

I do have self esteem issues but not surrounding my body.

When i tell people i am happy being the size i am they make hmm faces at me - i find this insulting.

I am pretty fit, i walk for miles and cycle distances that make the hmm face pullers making shock faces and declaring that they can't do that. I am extremely flexible and can touch the floor next to my toes wth the flats of my hands without bending my knees

I would be happy to be a size 18 on top and a size 16/14 down below but no slimmer, thanks. I would probably prefer that size but for no reasons other than health reasons - i eat a healthy diet but probably drink a little too much wine I also have flabby thighs which need sorting out, but othe than that, when i look in the mirror, i like what i see.

I'm 5'2"

I am a very sexual person and i FEEL sexy and my DP certainly thinks i'm sexy.

As i say, i have self esteem issues but they are no way associated with my body imagine. I don't like my face so much.

AIBU to be irritated when people clearly don't believe that someone of my size is happy with their body.

LtEveDallas Mon 29-Apr-13 19:28:15

Is there a reason you are posting in that way MrsMorton? Are you aware of how it makes you sound?

MrsMorton Mon 29-Apr-13 19:22:22

Yes, I'm sure every overweight service person/police officer has been injured in the line of duty also.

LtEveDallas Mon 29-Apr-13 19:17:14

Yes, those combat HR specialists are the right in the line of fire

Indeed, that's how I got my life changing injury smile

MrsMorton Mon 29-Apr-13 19:14:31

Yes, those combat HR specialists are the right in the line of fire hmm

LtEveDallas Mon 29-Apr-13 19:02:16

You are right about the CFT MrsMorton, and how soldiers can pass that but not their PFT. Although I have to say, IMO the CFT is a far more useful and accurate test - how likely is it on a battlefield that a soldier would leave all his kit behind, slip on his trainers and run away? grin. I want my soldiers to be able to carry all the kit they need to fight.

(Seeing fat soldiers makes me wonder what combat injury they got, whether they have prothetic limbs or internal injuries, and be very thankful that the Army is willing to retain and rehabilitate them rather than throw them on the scrapheap)

bobsnotabuilder Mon 29-Apr-13 18:54:49

Thought about this some more. I don't know of, and have never heard of ANYONE losing a tonne of weight and then saying god this is horrid I need to pile it back on again asap. I was so much happier before.

MrsMorton Mon 29-Apr-13 18:48:43

The CFT is one of a number of fitness tests in the army and it's shocking how many people can pass that test and not their PFT or whatever it's called this week at PFT, as far as I understand it, soldiers have their BMI and waist measurement taken and are put on a weight loss program if necessary.

Seeing fat soldiers makes me think of dad's army...

iiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii Mon 29-Apr-13 18:16:12

I think the wrong post got removed by MNHQ. I thought it was the rolls of lard comment you wanted removed

(at least I hope it was confused )

MrsMelons Mon 29-Apr-13 18:03:38

My mum is 5ft0 and has been diagnosed with schlerosis of the liver, the only factor they have told her they can find that is causing it is her weight. She weights 9st 13 so is roughly a stone overweight that is all. She is a size 12.

She is not allowed to drink at all (which she barely did) but has been told she MUST lose weight. I know it is unfortunate and maybe just one of those things but it just goes to show how controlling your weight is so important.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 Mon 29-Apr-13 17:12:03

oh me too smile Glad you don't hate on yourself all the time, never would be good though grin

youmaycallmeSSP Mon 29-Apr-13 16:58:49

Fanjo I don't most of the time. I do think that the market failure that allows me to become obese while millions starve is disgusting though. I'm a commie at heart grin

ubik Mon 29-Apr-13 16:41:30

Working fr the NHS has convinced me to lose enough weight to go from overweight to 'healthy' range and I want to get further down the healthy range too.

There are so many people with gout, type 2 diabetes and associated health problems requiring many different types of medication all with its own side effects.

I would like to avoid this if possible, I would like a healthy active retirement- I know I could be hit by a bus tomorrow and I know being a healthy weight doesn't preclude me from ill health, but it sure helps.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 Mon 29-Apr-13 16:40:52

SSP, it is very sad you find yourself "morally repugnant", that is no way to live your life.

Dahlen Mon 29-Apr-13 16:34:08

I think it's great that you're happy with your size in terms of your appearance. smile

However, at 5'2" your size puts you at significantly increased risk of health problems in future years. I would look into losing a bit of weight for that reason alone, not appearance.

It's perfectly possible to be overweight and fit. In fact it is better to be a little overweight than underweight, as this helps boost the immune system when it comes under fire.

A healthy lifestyle is far more influential than weight for most people. However, beyond a certain weight the excess is probably going to cancel out all that good work.

When I was a smoker, I still ran marathons. My lung capacity was certainly far superior to most smokers and probably better than many non-smokers who took no exercise whatsoever. However, none of that altered the fact that I was still damaging my lungs and ran the risk of all sorts of smoking-related diseases in the future.

TheRainbowsEnd Mon 29-Apr-13 16:28:40

I was out on Saturday evening and whilst washing my hands I couldn't help but overhear the two women next to me talking.

One was quite large and she said "I've never felt so frumpy before, I really need to actually stick to a diet"

It was obviously that by being overweight it had put a downer on a night out for her.

So if you're happy with your size then good for you, I know I would be more like that woman though - so well done for having more confidence than I ever could.

FasterStronger Mon 29-Apr-13 16:26:29

I don't like big boobs = feeling/looking sexy.

that's just another stick to bash women with.

FasterStronger Mon 29-Apr-13 16:24:16

^Personally, I find it morally repugnant that there were 925 million hungry people in the world in 2010 (a number which has no doubt increased by now) while I eat so much rubbish that I have several kilos of excess weight wobbling around. I'm not happy with that.

I agree with this sentiment. the problem we face as a planet is not only that there are more people but that the people are heavier so the total number of calories required to keep us is much greater than it would be if we were all a healthy weight.

(I say this as someone who is carrying extra weight)

pinkyredrose Mon 29-Apr-13 16:13:57

Dawn French anyone?

Come back OP, you sound awesome!

Ashoething Mon 29-Apr-13 16:11:35

That's not being brave jewcy-its just being nasty. Do you hate all women or merely fat ones? Your insecurity is actually quite sad

I am attractive at a size 16-have been told so by numerous people. Attractiveness is not the size of clothes you wear-it comes from self confidence. I have lotsgrin

Jewcy Mon 29-Apr-13 16:09:08

I have asked for my last post to be removed as it is unkind. Sorry, OP.

Jewcy Mon 29-Apr-13 16:06:07

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

youmaycallmeSSP Mon 29-Apr-13 15:46:13

It's not about making individuals feel guilty, it's about seeing my weight problem as symbolic of a market failure that costs people their lives every day. It might seem a bit odd but that's really motivated me to lose weight, be less wasteful with food and to think more carefully about what I consume.

I really don't buy into the 'big is beautiful' psyche. In my view being seriously overweight (all SN etc. exceptions apply...) is wrong on several levels, which is why I'm shifting my own excess fat.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 Mon 29-Apr-13 15:44:37

"heaving rolls of lard "

How nasty, Jewcy

likeitorlumpit Mon 29-Apr-13 15:22:54

this is how i see it ,
op says shes happy
then lists things she aint happy with
we all eye roll
back to square one

JugglingFromHereToThere Mon 29-Apr-13 15:18:45

Not really Jewcy - I just don't see the point in trying to make one particular individual feel guilty about the problem of world hunger just because they are personally a bit over-weight. I think we're all just as responsible for the problem of world hunger whatever size we are.
And the word "repugnant" is a bit loaded isn't it ?

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