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yes I am being v unreasonable. Namechanged. Need telling off. Smoking.

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soashamedinamechanged Fri 26-Apr-13 13:53:13

Cut down from 10 a day to 1 or 2 (max) a day until I was 12 weeks - non after scan and I saw my baby smile

PND - and I stupidly started again. Roughly 7 to 10 a day.

I know I'm pregnant. Just waiting for it to be confirmed at Dr's therefore it's been confirmed by POAS

It's been 4 days since I found out and I'm still smoking. But I have cut down. I'm so ashamed.

I've just had 1 and put it out half way through as I hate myself so much.

I want to stop. I don't want to use patches as I didn't last time.

Please tell me I can do this - and do it today!

My heart is racing at the bollocking I'm going to get on here sad

But I need to write it down or I'll just stay in denial

timidviper Fri 26-Apr-13 17:09:16

You can do it and you will do it, you know that.

Don't be afraid to use nicotine replacement though. Smoking is multifaceted, the nicotine addiction is only part of the habit and patches, etc can help. I often recommend people have patches or gum with something like a Quickmist spray for cravings that break through.

Please though DO NOT buy an e-cig. These things do not help you give up, they were developed as a smoking replacement, not as a cessation aid so you just "smoke" something different and it is just as hard to give up. In fact the way some are marketed makes it clear they do not want you to give up. They are also not properly regulated or tested so there is no guarantee of what is in them and there have even been some substandard ones that have been dangerous.

greenteawithlemon Fri 26-Apr-13 17:04:36

Definitely get into some kind of nicotine replacement therapy. It really eases the blow. Good luck! You can do it!

imour Fri 26-Apr-13 17:01:55

i tried the ecig , nicotine gum , lozenges , cutting down but none helped , then i joined the wequit forum they are really supportive on there and read allen carr`s stop smoking book , i had my last cig 6th jan and both of these really helped ,please join the forum and get the book ,good luck

AlnwickRose Fri 26-Apr-13 17:00:11

Another vote for Alan Car.

giveitago Fri 26-Apr-13 16:55:15

OP - giving you lots of hugs here as a smoker myself.

I gave up work when I was told we'd need to be on IVF waiting lists. I just gave up work and as a hardened smoker when on an nhs course to give up as I thought if I'm taking this sacrifice, just do the entire thing properly to try and conceive naturally before IVF. Went on NHS - I actually quit before my quit date - so easy (why hadn't I done it before?). But still no child so I started temping to keep me occupied and stupidly, stupidly started smoking again thinking well, I won't get pregnant naturally so why bother looking after myself and it's so easy to give up............

Well three weeks after starting smoking very lightly again, I dragged dh on a long haul holiday. Time of our lives - great country, great food, great people. I drank and smoked. Felt crap coming home. Went back to temping work -colleagues just kept staring at me. I enjoy being abroad and take great advantage of food etc. but drop the weight within two weeks. This time colleagues keep ON staring at me and there's a comment about my weight. I did a test - to my absulute amazement - I'M BLOODY PREGANT.

tHANKFULLY I'm only a few weeks into smoking again and i was able to give up immediately as it hadn't taken a hold.

Can I be honest here - I was soooooooooo shocked to be pregant naturally my instinct was to smoke and drink pints of stuff. But somehow I managed not to. It was NOT easy. But I managed it.

Do try OP. And I'm not being judge pants because the stress of having the last chance saloon pregnancy did topple me and I started smoked (well away from ds) once breast milk had dried up and I felt bereft.

If you really cant quit just try to cut down. I think listening to other people berating you can cause stress, but do it for your own reasons. Keep yourself quiet and happy and do try your best. The more stress you have the more you want to smoke.

Best of luck to you OP. Sounds like you're trying to do your best. Keep at it.

mrsjay Fri 26-Apr-13 16:54:00

and putting it out is a good thing isn't it you are on your way to not having any at all

mrsjay Fri 26-Apr-13 16:53:21

how many are you smoking can you change to the lowest tar you can find silk cut or something and try and do it that way , or an e ciggie you won't get a bollocking from me you are trying very hard to give up a drug habit .

TheVDM Fri 26-Apr-13 16:51:14

I won't give you a bollocking, but as a smoker who has given up and started too many times to remember I can tell you it's easy to give up for a few months, I just find it hard to stay a non smoker for some reason.

If you're having temptations try getting hold of Alan Carr's Easy Way to Stop Smoking, it worked for me once or twice (well for 6 months to a year at least)

You can do it, I believe in you!

Crinkle77 Fri 26-Apr-13 16:30:30

I am not going to bollock you. You have recognised that there is a problem and want to do something about it. It sounds like you have had a rough time with the PND so don't beat yourself up about it. Go to your doctors and they will refer you to your nearest smoking cessation team.

Tailtwister Fri 26-Apr-13 16:22:48

Of course you can do it! You've done it before and will do it again. Good luck.

CorrieDale Fri 26-Apr-13 16:09:03

I used the lozenges when I gave up. The patches interfered with my sleep and you don't want that - the pregnancy itself will do that for you wink the lozenges worked well. They taste horrible - really really nasty - so no fear of getting addicted. But they helped me through. But actually I think it's like a previous poster said. It's fear that's getting to you now. Have you tried havening? Paul McKenna advocates it for helping with fear and stress. Google it and give it a try.

Charlesroi Fri 26-Apr-13 15:46:06

Of course you can do it and it'll be a lot easier if you don't beat yourself up about it.

Go and buy an e-cig. You don't have to use it, but it will be one additional reason not to go and buy a packet of fags (you know - when your brain is arguing with itself and you feel a bit martyrish grin)

PS Congratulations!

MansView Fri 26-Apr-13 15:27:29

I used to smoke - not heavy, say 3-4 rollies a day...

I tried to give up and failed...

what actually helped me give up (and quite easily)- what my frame of mind - as I wanted to give up as I was getting sick of it...
I think if you give up because you have to - whether it's for health reason, financial, or people telling you and you on't actually want to give up then you'll use any excuse to go back to them...

you need to realise they're a fucking waste of time - people say it's the only pleasure they have whilst coughing their guts

what was also hard for me was the routine of it all - as an example - I'd come home, havea rollie, relax, do some exercise then put some food on and have a rollie - I needed to substitute that missing step in my routine...once I overcame that too it was easy...never smoked since in a few years now smile

good luck

pickledginger Fri 26-Apr-13 15:21:33

You've done it before, you can do it again. One day at a time. Good luck.

Dahlen Fri 26-Apr-13 15:18:36

Have you tried the Allen Carr Easy Way to Give Up Smoking book? It's what I used when I started TTC and I haven't smoked since - many years hence.

CabbageLooking Fri 26-Apr-13 15:15:52

When I stopped smoking I told myself that I hadn't quit smoking, I could smoke whenever I wanted it's just that RIGHT NOW I don't want to. So each time I went to pick up a cigarette I asked myself the question "do I want this"? A couple of times, I thought I did and smoked it but it was so massively disappointing that the next time I asked myself the question I really really didn't want it.

I did use the inhalator for a while but it looked so much like a tampon that I really wasn't willing to use it in public.

You'll get there. Good luck.

schmaddington Fri 26-Apr-13 15:08:35

I would go to the smoking cessation nhs people and get yourself a nicotine gum prescription. I smoked all through my first pregnancy. I cut down to ten a day but that was still appalling, and I know that so don't need telling smile .I was determined to quit with this pregnancy. I am prescribed gum and I haven't touched a single cigarette. And it has been fairly easy. Cold turkey is too hard - I say make it easy on yourself.

FWIW, the gum is better than the patches, which didn't help me at all. You can do it.

EhricLovesTeamQhuay Fri 26-Apr-13 14:58:34

Buy the Allen Carr book immediately and read it. It WILL help, I promise.

FeckOffCup Fri 26-Apr-13 14:29:31

You can do it, I managed to give up the day after I found out I was 6 weeks pregnant and didn't have another for the whole pregnancy. The thought that if I miscarried my very much wanted pregnancy it could be the cigarettes' fault was enough to scare me into quitting. You have done it before and you can do it again, but why don't you want to use the nicotine replacement therapy? If it helps to wean you off the cigs it can't be bad, have you conisidered using one of the electronic cigarettes as a short term replacement, you'll still get the inhaling sensation and the nicotine but not all the tobacco toxins.

Pigsmummy Fri 26-Apr-13 14:22:44

Go and do the Alan Carr course? It's a one day seminar, from 10ish to about 4pm. It really works, ask around and you might get a referral discount from someone who has done it too. If you can't find one locally try a session with a hyno therapist, they often do appointments in the evenings etc. You can do this, you deserve to enjoy your pregnancy guilt free and your wee baby deserves a healthy start. Good luck

mumofweeboys Fri 26-Apr-13 14:22:25

Get in touch with your mw/mw team. They have specially trained mw to help you and they wont judge, just be happy to help you

EmmaBemma Fri 26-Apr-13 14:13:34

Congratulations! You can stop. You did it before, you can do it again.

UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea Fri 26-Apr-13 14:12:58

Repeat out loud:

I don't smoke.

I don't smoke.

I don't smoke.

Apparently being told you can't do something is much less effective then being told that you don't do something when breaking a bad habit.

Can't releases the inner rebel, don't reprogrammes your thinking.

But you need to constantly reiterate it to yourself.

Congratulations BTW smile

coffeewineandchocolate Fri 26-Apr-13 14:12:54

Put the packet away. Pot would be another issue entirely

coffeewineandchocolate Fri 26-Apr-13 14:12:22

My friend put a scan pic in her fag packet to remind her why she didn't want one. Every time she opened the packet she saw it and pot the packet away....

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