Has Aunty Flo gone to far this time?(maybe its long, maybe its TMI)(31 Posts)
She was there at Christmas, extending her stay to New year. She made relatively nice gentle appearance in the middle of January, just to make sure I hadn't forgotten about her, then BANG, Valentines day she comes storming in distrupting any 'plans' we had made, without her usual prior notice.
My birthday, horse riding had to be cancelled, thankfully this time, she had informed me 2 days prior, bashing me around the head and stabbing me with knitting needles in my pelvic region, was sufficient warning, she hung around for a week, showing all the signs for leaving, raising my hopes, the changing her mind at the last minute.
It appeared that she had left for a while, until DH mentions horse riding again, how the hell Aunty Flo overheard I do not know, before he had finished saying horse, she was knocking seven shades out of my pelvis again. Hung around until she understood that plans had been cancelled again, then pissed off on her jolly holidays. Leaving me wondering if I will ever be able to make plans for anything ever again.
Obviously I CAN'T, wedding anniversary today, so guess who's made an appearance and made it loud ond very very clear. AUNTY FUCKING FLO. SHe entered very very quietly this time, 5am wake up call.
My wedding anniversary will now be spent cleaning the bed sheets, and tonights planned meal (if i can get out of the door) will be spent running to the bathroom every 20 mins.
SHe never sticks to only visiting at ceratin times of the month, anywhere between 21-28 days has now become her norm, she never knows how long she is staying, she picks and chooses if she's going to let me know, she causes chaos when she visits.
I'm 41 years of age, I have finished having children, I do not need you in my life anymore, we've had a relationship for 30 years, you have cost me a fortune, you have caused me pain, you are stopping me having a life. Please please Aunty Flo. FUCK OFF!
You need to make it clear to the bitch that she is not welcome
by threatening to have all your bits ripped out by telling her loud and clear.
Has she always restricted your life this much though, or is that a recent thing?
Have you been to the doctor? You could try tranexamic acid to reduce the flow, the Mirena coil, endometrial ablation - there are options! You don't have to suffer!
I went to the Gp last year, I was given some pills to try (can't remember what they were) they reduced the flow a little but extended it to a 12 day stay instead of her 5 day, I thought putting up with a very inconvient 1 day to have it over and done with in 5 days or less was better than not knowing when it would end. So didn't go back for a new presciption. Had 1 blood test, were Peri menopause was ruled out and Showed I wasn't anemic. So GPs stance was oh well not a lot we can do.
Since xmas though she is making her point loud and clear. Another visit to the GP is due. Instead of just 1 day were it rules my life its now strecthed into 2.
I am hoping this is the beginning of the end.
Would one of the new generation mini pills be suitable for you. I take cerazette and have no af, no crams, no mood swings, no headaches is AMAZING! Took a few months to settle on it though...
Binky I was 40 when my periods started to go really heavy - I'm 46 now and it's just the same.
I've tried the other things - didn't work for me and they couldn't do the ablation as they couldn't open my cervix enough.
After years of faff, I'm back to putting up with the devil I know. Sucks, doesn't it?!
MY body can do what ever it wants, I can live with (just) the 5am wake up, I can live with keeping Tampax in business, I can live with the sheet washing and being confined to the house for a dayor two, even timing visits to the local shop. But when it interefers with the very few peaceful, potentially intimate times I have with DH then its too much.
I was planning on seducing DH over a Thai meal tonight.
psst ... we just do it anyway ... Doesn't stop my DH!
Going through the same although I am anemic and on iron tablets. Have recently had an ultrasound I have fibroids so enough is enough and I'm saying goodbye - well will be when I see the consultant in a couple of weeks!
Practically have you tried ibuprofen every 4 hours seems to reduce the flow - although going through an ultra tampon and a night pad every 1 1/2 hours even a change to every 2 hours is a bonus. And one of those kids bed wetting pads on top of the sheets - certainly saves the panic at an ungodly hour in the morning!
Euphemia it would be like a scene from a horror movie.
I've had an ultrasound, everything is clear. It seems that periods from the depths of hell are just what my body likes. It seems its a family thing, all the females on my maternal side have had hysterectomies (sp) due to how bad they are. I have warned DD and my little Dsis to prepare themselves.
Night time is not too bad most of the time, I've perfected the art of the early morning sprint, during the day its bad, Super plus tampon every 20 mins, if I extend to 30 mins then its a tampon and pad. I've tried ibuprofen, it doesn't seem to work. I've just started (past month) agnus castus, I'll keep up with it and hope that it has some effect.
I HATE Aunt Flo!!!! I 'celebrate' the big 60 later this year . Have just had my hormone levels checked, only to be informed that I am ' not quite' in the menopause YET!!! I am in the 12% of woman who have a late menopause, I just want to be NORMAL !! Oh and by the way Aunt Flo has been visiting every bleeding month since I was TEN !!!!!
That really is not normal and your
stupid arse doctor should be finding some way of helping you!
Maggie the problem at my surgery is we have about 12 GPs to pick from, so its damn near impossible to see the same one each time, so new GP means new 'idea' to try or you get the look of 'Its not that bad' as they just hear the 1 or 2 day of hell. Finding the one GP who is understanding will be a long slog as I will have to work through all of them to find the one, sods law states it will either be the last one you see or the first one.
Super plus tampon every 20 mins, if I extend to 30 mins then its a tampon and pad
That's horrendous! I'm a teacher so I have to be in class for two hours at a stretch - no way I could cope with that!
In your shoes I would try endometrial ablation.
I read mumsnet loads and I only post to say 'ABLATION'! It's amazing, I've had it done and it changed my life! Go to the docs and see if you are eligible and tell them you don't want a coil. Ablation destroys the lining of the womb using heat so no periods and no hormone interference. In and out of hospital in half a day. Only downside is no HRT in the future. Hope you get it sorted either way.
I also recommend cerazette. No periods, no bleeding, no cramps. I do not have time for that shit in my life. You take in constantly, like pp said it takes a few months to settle down but 6 months later it's my BFF.
I want ABLATION, i have thought about nagging the GP but until last year it was just to stop the periods because I had had enough, now though I want it so my life doesn't come to a grinding halt every few weeks.
How do I persuade the GP, when I can't see the same once each time, that I need it doing? They are very very reluctant to do referrals (prior experience with DD needing a Neuro referal and gynae referal). Maybe I need to think about going private.
Good grief that sounds horrendous.
Would men put up with it??!!
It doesn't seem to be being taken seriously tbh & that's not on-it's impacting on your life!
I found a mooncup helped with the 20min dash - OK, it was still a much more regular dash than mooncup said it should be, but it was much more reliable - and I think helped with the pain too.
However, I got fed up and went to the Dr and got referred to a consultant because it had got so out of hand - he suggested trying the Mirena and see if it worked for me (having read of various problems I quizzed him on that and he said that he would take it out himself if the side effects were a problem, and he'd try something else instead). It was uncomfortable having it fitted. However, since then I've had no problems at all - its wonderful!
Tranexamic acid saved my life. I was flooding like you, straight through my clothes. Wearing a tampon as well as a night-time towel - during the day, but still saturated after less than an hour. I went to the GP in tears one day as I was so frustrated and he prescribed the tranexamic acid. I had to take it as soon as I knew the period was coming. It was a miracle drug for me. Seriously.
The ironic thing was, I only needed to use it for a year or so - I went through an early menopause - 38.
Such is life.
oh and the tranexamic acid also reduced my period's duration from ten days to three.
That is a very funny thread title.
(YAB a bit U not to be using a Mooncup , it made AF a bit better for me)
Unless public toilets start to install showers alongside the toilet I will not be venturing into the world of the mooncup, changing tampons fast enough is hard work.
You could always pay for a private consultation but get transferred to the nhs list with the same consultant for the procedure.
Me, my mum and my best friend had it done:
I was private due to insurance so didn't try on nhs.
My mum was nhs after not getting on with the coil
My best friend was sterilised using essures (the springs in the tubes) and they offered to do it at same time.
Maybe go down the sterilisation route for a referral and once you talk to the consultant switch to ablation.
If I were you I'd loosen my morals and get creative <flame away>
I think I will pay for my lack of activity during her recent visit (although the day after my op was bad timing imo) - it cut her visit short so I think next time she'll come back with a vengeance!
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