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AIBU to go to the pub 30 metres away with a video monitor.

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HoveDad Thu 25-Apr-13 12:04:45

I live in a terrace of houses and ten doors down is a really nice pub that does great food. Would it be horribly irresponsible to leave the kids (8,4 and 2) home alone with a video (+audio) monitor watching the doors to the bedrooms, toilet and hallway? One of us could be home within one minute of seeing / hearing a child but in the mean time we could be sat having a couple of pints and a tasty meal with friends with a laptop/ipad on the table showing what's going on in the house.
I suspect this isn't ok and haven't suggested it to my wife yet but wanted to canvas opinions. You could get the kit to do this for ~ £100 which is what 4 baby sits would cost.

Sparklingbrook Sat 22-Oct-16 13:34:43


FlabulousChic Sat 22-Oct-16 12:24:44

Are you really that desperate to visit a pub? What a sad person you are. It's a disgusting idea and makes you a bad parent.

PerpendicularVincent Sat 22-Oct-16 12:05:47

Thank God it's a zombie thread. At least I don't have to travel through loads of bullshit posts about risk assessments and styles of parenting.

sashh Sat 22-Oct-16 11:42:27

Phone the pub, order food and drinks, one of you collects both and brings them home, retun washed dishes in the morning.

ohtheholidays Sat 22-Oct-16 11:16:05

Aaahhhh Bloody Zombie thread why do people keep bringing them back?

ohtheholidays Sat 22-Oct-16 10:45:14

I worked with Social Services and I'd want your children removed from your home!

If you think your suggestion would be a normal and good idea I dread to imagine what the rest of your parenting is like!

BowieFan Sat 22-Oct-16 10:37:14

It is funny how much things have changed though. I remember going to Butlins in the 70s and our parents gladly leaving us in the chalets whilst the redcoats just walked around listening for crying babies. If there was a problem, they buzzed the board in the club and you finished your drink and bingo and then left. I can't imagine they'd do that these days.

BowieFan Sat 22-Oct-16 10:35:28

Nope, it seems ridiculous. I used to leave my 8 year olds on their own when I went around to my mum's, but that's because I could literally see into my living room from my parents' living room. I only started leaving them without a babysitter when we went out for the night last year when they turned 14. They'll be 15 next week and I'd have no issue leaving them now.

SciFiFan2015 Sat 22-Oct-16 10:33:26

Ah! I dislike the way zombie threads appear in recents. I normally check the date/time but missed it today. Ach well.

Skylander01 Sat 22-Oct-16 10:29:48

It is illegal to leave young children with anyone under the age of 13 years old so thats it - its scary and illegal. Trust me the time soon flies by and you won't be able to spend time with any of your children! They will all be out with friends, living their lives - then it will be your turn again if you still have the energy!!

WowserBowser Sat 22-Oct-16 10:24:26

No btfly it's parenting in 2013

SciFiFan2015 Sat 22-Oct-16 10:21:29

If it's only 90 seconds away - would the pub deliver its food to you?

lalaroo Sat 22-Oct-16 10:18:45

if I were your neighbour I'd call social services.

Rachel0Greep Sat 22-Oct-16 10:10:07

Sparkie, report your post and ask MN to set it up as a new thread, rather than adding to a zombie thread as people will keep replying to the original post from three years ago.

PigletWasPoohsFriend Sat 22-Oct-16 10:08:11


btfly2 Sat 22-Oct-16 10:07:05

OMG what a ridiculous idea! Is that parenting in 2016?? No thank you.

BadToTheBone Sat 22-Oct-16 10:02:18

Also, was this really acceptable in the 70's, not in my family or wider friends circle. I had done fabulous nights being dragged along to parties to play with the hosts kids till we all feel asleep and I have great memories of my Nanna coming over the babysit. I was never left alone and none of my friends were either. I heard stories of latch key kids but it was always from when my parents were little, so the 40's and 50's.

QuimReaper Sat 22-Oct-16 10:01:04

Why are all these zombie threads being bumped? confused

BadToTheBone Sat 22-Oct-16 09:59:01

Logically, it isn't the worst idea, the temptation is appealing and chances of anything happening are minuscule. However, I couldn't do it, my protective instincts are just too huge for me to ignore. The illogical worry would ruin my night, simply put.

n0ne Sat 22-Oct-16 09:56:17

I've actually done similar to this, but just with the one child. Our neighbourhood has an annual street party. When it got to DD(3)'s bedtime, I put her to bed, turning on an app on my phone that calls you if a sensor in the bedroom is activated, then went back to the party. The party was 50 yards down the street from our house. I also went and checked on her every 20 mins. Me and DH were fine with this.

But not sure how that works with 3 kids.

Sara107 Sat 22-Oct-16 09:52:31

I think the fact you're re asking the internet instead of your wife suggests she won't t go along with this!

SuperFlyHigh Sat 22-Oct-16 09:50:53

Apologies didn't see date zombie!!!

Ilove Sat 22-Oct-16 09:44:33

FFS. Didn't spot the zombie

wellhereweare Sat 22-Oct-16 09:43:20


Ilove Sat 22-Oct-16 09:42:54

I'm sure you've realised by now that it's a daft idea, stemming probably from sheer desperation to have a more 'normal' life again.

I just wanted to address your point of "stuff happens rarely (fire, accidents, etc)

It actually doesn't. I'm an ofsted registered Nanny, and I'm also a "fast responder".

When a 999 call goes through to an area more than 3 miles (i think) away from an ambulance station, in remoter villages etc, we (volunteer and VERY highly trained) fast responders can be dispatched, and we get there and start to deal with the issue while the "proper" paramedics are on their way - sometimes it can take 90 minutes for a 'big' ambulance to arrive. The amount of times folk are taken ill in a pub/restaurant/road, or knocked over, or ANYTHING, is amazing. And scary, sometimes.

So if you're having a heart attack, or a stroke, or you've collapsed, or been knocked over, or anything, how the hell do we know you have three children at home alone? Say you manage to tell me you have kids - I'd assume there was a sitter with them (see for folk like me to help you)

If i realised they were alone, how would I get in? We'd HAVE to get the police and SS out - please, don't assume that nothing will happen.

Folk who died last night had plans for this morning. The ones in teh accidents this morning had plans an hour later. I'm sounding preachy, I'm sorry, but it is just not worth it.

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