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to think I'm too old, fat & uncool for their gym?

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MariefromStMoritz Thu 25-Apr-13 07:04:14

OK, so I have recently returned to work after having a baby. Things have been extremely tight financially for the past year, but things are improving now that I am back at work. As a treat, I decided to join the gym for one month in order to kickstart a new fitness regime. I am not sure if I will continue with the gym after this, or do my own thing at home. I had major surgery when my DD was born along with some time in ICU so I feel I need the support of a gym and professional instructors, at least to begin with.

There are 2 gyms in my town, both very close to work. One is Fitness First, and I went there to sign up and told the salesman that I wanted to pay monthly. He tried every devious way possible to extract a full year's membership from me so in the end I didn't join up.

So the other gym here is marketed as a 'boutique' gym grin. It is all very stylish and when I went to have a look around, everyone was very friendly. There was no hard sales tactics and I immediately fell in love with the gym and wanted to join up. But it is expensive. Like, more than double that of Fitness First. I dithered a bit, but then my DH said that because I had had such a difficult time physically over the past year, he was happy for me to join.

So, I joined this gym. On Day One, I had an Induction. I explained that I did not know how to use the machines so needed to be shown. I also needed a Programme that I could follow. He didn’t do any machines with me, but did all floor work which he called a ‘Fitness Test’. I asked him if these exercise would feature in my Programme, and he said they would. So Day 2, I turn up and find my Programme. It is basically a list of machines. No settings, no timings. I complained. The management emailed me immediately and were very apologetic and made me an appointment with another trainer. So, Day 3. Induction with new trainer. She also did lunges, etc with me but when I asked her about a Programme, she said she didn’t do them! So back to square one. I complained again and the Head Trainer said he couldn’t see me until next Tuesday, but in the meantime he would write me a Programme and leave it at Reception. So, Day 4, today. Pick up my Programme, do the cardio, get to the machines… I couldn’t get them to work. I was pulling and pushing and looking for an ‘on’ switch… nothing. I felt so stupid. There was nobody around to ask as the trainers were both with PT clients, so I showered and left.

I feel so upset because all I wanted was a written Programme that I could follow: what machines to use, which settings and for how long. And to be shown how to actually use the machines. Is that too much to ask?

As I was leaving I looked around at this beautiful, stylish place with all these beautiful, stylish people and it occurred to me: maybe they don’t actually want me there. I am old and fat (compared to their other clients) and I just don’t look the part. AIBU to think this?

Walkacrossthesand Thu 25-Apr-13 14:55:38

Does your gym have studio classes included in the membership? Body conditioning, legs bums & tums, step & tone... If so, I'd recommend going along to some - they are heaps friendlier than the gym, you get a chance to get to know regular classmates, and the 'moves' are similar to the floor work that the trainers will do with you. Keep at it - you'll develop your own routine and start to feel less self-conscious I'm sure. (I'm heavy & old btw grin

MariefromStMoritz Thu 25-Apr-13 16:17:31

Yes, they have plenty of classes, but I was deemed not fit enough to do the classes by the first trainer sad

Walkacrossthesand Thu 25-Apr-13 16:38:58

Sounds fishy - as someone up thread said, the trainers are touting for business, the classes aren't usually boot-camp style and the trainers arent usually the class teachers so may have no idea what classes are about!! Have a look at the list, maybe arrange to be on the premises when a likely-looking one is starting & have a chat to the teacher...

Walkacrossthesand Thu 25-Apr-13 16:42:06

PS if your gym does Les Mills classes, avoid body combat & body attack initially - they are tough!! Body pump you can do with very light weights, and body balance is lovely - like t'ai chi/yoga/Pilates.

ilovepowerhoop Thu 25-Apr-13 16:44:28

bullshit - you only improve your fitness by going to the classes and challenging yourself. There will be lower impact options and you start with them and work your way up to higher impact options. One of the first classes I went to was body pump (at the ripe old age of 35 and over 15 stones in weight!) - start with light weights, get the technique right and then start increasing the weights to challenge your body.

I also started going to an aerobics and legs bums and tums class and again go at the pace that suits you. Find out what classes there are and go along to one or more to see what they are like - you dont need their permission!

Dont let them dent your confidence and get exercising

ilovepowerhoop Thu 25-Apr-13 16:47:20

p.s. it took me months to work up the courage to do body attack and it really wasnt as bad as I imagined it to be - even then they do show lower impact alternative moves you can do. It is like super high impact aerobics with lots of jumping jacks (I do the lower impact version of them as I am fearful for my pelvic floor!)

Mitchy1nge Thu 25-Apr-13 16:51:44

have never heard of anyone being too unfit for classes before hmm obviously some classes are courses (Pilates?) and might be hard to join if you haven't done it before

your gym sounds really horrible, isn't there anything else at all?

ValenciaOrange Thu 25-Apr-13 16:55:32

Do you have any council run gyms in your area. Here there is a gym in most leisure centres, and you can only use them once you have done an induction hour with a trainer from the centre. They show you how to use all the machines etc. If you want a personalized program they will work one out for you but that is on a separate session.

Mitchy1nge Thu 25-Apr-13 17:15:09

I LOVE my council run (although privatised I think) leisure centre so much more than the shiny Next Generation one I used to go to

you must have more than two gyms? Even our not very big town (20000 people) has about five

Fillyjonk75 Thu 25-Apr-13 17:23:44

Have you tried Zumba, OP? That's one where you can definitely work at your own level.

ilovepowerhoop Thu 25-Apr-13 17:28:14

zumba is great but can depend on the instructor - I did zumba and powerhoop today and will do powerhoop tomorrow too - the same instructor takes both classes and she is a great motivator.

McPie Fri 26-Apr-13 08:13:07

My first ever class was Body Combat (I was crapping myself) and yes it was tough but there are different levels for everyone to follow.
If you can get to any of the Body classes then I would give them a try as they are a good introduction and all my instructors are wonderful.
I have went from that first class at the start of september to getting ready to do my 13th and 14th class this week, I am signed up for Tough Mudder in August and to top it all off I have lost 3 stone grin.

Walkacrossthesand Fri 26-Apr-13 18:06:22

3 stone! Well done, McPie! flowers Hope these responses have boosted your confidence, OP.

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