Sorry this is so long but I'm not brilliant at expressing myself concisely
Anyway, in the last few days a couple of people I'm fb friends with have 'liked' one of those Spotted pages for our town. And today someone else I know commented on a photo of a half dressed, random woman somebody had put up on that page (it came up in my newsfeed). Curiosity got the better of me and I looked at the comments underneath and the page itself. Among the piss taking ones were lots saying that they'd seen this woman around in the daytime in a similar state of undress. That says to me that maybe she's got mental health issues rather than that she's an exhibitionist but I really don't think it's ok to take a stranger's photo and post it online, inviting people to make comments about them in any circumstances :-/
There were some other photos put up of people that had been 'spotted' in the street or the pub or other public places and they all had horrid comments underneath. They all looked like the person was unaware they were being photographed apart from one picture of two smiling middle aged women in a club that had been posted by the site's admin who wrote something about being desperate to get the phone number of these two stunners
And there are loads of nasty anonymous comments about people who work behind x counter in this or that shop or who go to a particular gym class or live in this or that street.
Anyway, I thought the whole thing was really unpleasant and that a lot of the postings amounted to bullying. I definitely think the photos do, in fact I was horrified that there are wankers going around my town taking photos of people that they consider ugly, to put on the Internet for other people to laugh at.
I'll admit that part of my unease definitely comes from the fact that I used to get abused about my appearance every single time I left the house (went through a VERY awkward ugly duckling phase as a teen). That hasn't happened for years but I've never been comfortable in my own skin and am now feeling sick at the thought that I might be minding my own business one day, just walking along the street or having a drink outside the pub on a sunny day and somebody might think I'd make a good subject for ridicule on the local spotted page.
It's a fairly small town as well so quite a few of the people whose picture was put up have been named in the comments.
Anyway when I was reading the page, the admin kept posting stuff, he must have written about ten posts during that time. And one of them was an anti bullying one!!! He was saying how wrong bullying is and "how would it make you feel" if someone was bullying you and "let's kick bullying out of xxx town". Well I commented underneath, saying that I thought it was great that he was anti bullying and that he could make a difference himself by not allowing people to post photos of strangers on his page without their consent. And that if people were going to make nasty comments about strangers on his page then they should have to use their fb name rather than do it anonymously.
A number of other people also said the same thing and explained to him that his page enabled bullying behaviour. He replied saying that any photos that had been complained about had been deleted. Good, I thought, and reported all of them. Although one woman said she'd asked him again and again to take her photo down and he hadn't. The admin also said that they'd had loads of excellent feedback and it was a very popular page and that if anyone didn't like it, they didn't have to look. So not engaging with any of the points that had been made to him.
Then I went to write something in response to that, only to find that he'd suddenly deleted the entire anti-bullying post and had written another one about how spotted pages are about fun and banter and anyone who doesn't get it should just stay away. Lots of "lol it's prbly just the ppl ur posting abt that dnt lyk it" type comments underneath. And all the photos are still up, hours later
Anyway, I know that you don't have to look at these pages if you don't like them. I do get that. But I don't think that's a good enough justification for them to be left to stand. It seems like their actual purpose is to promote and to enable bullying, no matter what is said about fun and banter. And especially in a small town, I think it's hard to just brush off the fact that there are people living there who are on the lookout for targets to photograph and humiliate, and to say that it doesn't matter if you don't look at the page. It would probably get back to you anyway. AIBU?
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Catlike · 24/04/2013 16:12
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