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AtYourCervix Tue 23-Apr-13 07:43:11

I have an extremely unhealthy relationship with food.
The thinnest I have been and when I looked my best I was pretty much bullimic.

I am now old and fat. I don't like being fat. I start the day in a healthy frame of mind then crave carbs and butter and shit. I'm all or nothing. At a push I can be 'good' for a month, drop a stone, then return to 'normal' and over do the cheese, bread, butter and wine. Again.
Dietwise- you name it I've done it. For a month or so until I get bored and think I can control it and have just a little.
I am unreasonable. I know I am. But I am also a bit desperate.
If I were to do a band I have some questions.
Where? How much? How quickly? Would someone as weird and obsessive and crap with food be able to break it? If not surgery what elae?

CiderwithBuda Tue 23-Apr-13 10:31:27

I sort of know how you feel although I haven't considered gastric band. I have tried most diets. Lost 33lbs with WW last year but since around sept have been gaining and losing the same few pounds and feeling like an utter failure.

I met a girl on saturday who is just joining WW. She had done SW for years but not really got anywhere. So tried the Cambridge diet. Has lost over 2 and a half stone but knows she can't carry on with it so she is now starting WW to lose her final two stone.

It made me think about mixing things up a bit. I thought about Cambridge or something similar but not sure I could stick to that for long.

I am bored with WW. I feel like a failure when I see people who have managed to stick to it like I think I should have. So I have decided I need a change. The good thing is that I haven't put back on all I lost last year as I have kept going to WW. So I now want to lose another 2 stone and I am joining the low carb boot camp. I'm wondering if a change will be as good as a rest ifywim? I'll me more enthusiastic and interested in something new. And if after a few months on this I am feeling bored again I may switch to another approach. I think sticking to one plan if you have a lot to lose can seem so daunting and seems to stretch into forever.

LaurieFairyCake Tue 23-Apr-13 10:40:05

I think you just haven't found the way that works for you yet. I'm loving 5:2 as I get to eat carbs with a chunk of cheese the vast majority of the time.

What is it about the 2 day fast that's difficult for you? Have you tried cutting down gradually on those 2 days? I know someone who was at 900 calories for a few weeks and it took her over 2 months to get down to 500. She is now happily losing at a pound a week.

For me every single 'diet' has been utterly unsustainable apart from 5:2.

frumperina Tue 23-Apr-13 10:41:16

I would recommend trying the Hypnotic Gastric Band, I did the Paul Mckenna one and lost 5kg in 2 weeks with no effort what so ever.It was so easy. then I found out I was pregnant. It did not work for me when I had morning sickness and weird food cravings,but I'm through the first trimester now and feeling better so will try again. Just ordered one for my mum too.
I work with people who have had Gastric Bands and Bypasses sometimes and they are not a magic solution at all, especially if you don't deal with the psychological causes of over-eating.

recall Tue 23-Apr-13 10:41:43

atyourcervix can I just say that if you are considering a weight loss surgery, please think about having a gastric bypass instead. I had a gastric band, and I lost 6 stone, but then my pouch above the band stretched, and I put 5 stone back on.

I then had revision surgery, and had the bypass. I can't recommend this surgery enough. My whole attitude to food has changed. My appetite has greatly reduced, and I don't eat for pleasure/comfort any more. I only need to eat a small meal, and I feel satisfied and just stop eating. If I eat too much fatty/sugary foods,I feel quite nauseous and tired, so naturally avoid them. If I eat a balanced meal, with plenty of protein, a small amount go carbs, and salad/veg I feel just right. I now share puddings because one is far too much. About 4 squares of chocolate is my limit now or I spend the next 40 minutes feeling bleurgh.

I have regained control of what I eat, and more importantly the desire to eat. The compulsion to eat has gone, and I find myself making choices. For example, if i am preparing a meal, I am careful about testing it because even that can knock my appetite off. I don't eat too many carbs now, because it is a waste of my small appetite, I just see it as filler now. I would rather eat the tasty bits. I will buy a sandwich, and remove half of the bread, and make it into one triangle. Sometimes, I get to 2-3 pm and suddenly realise I haven't eaten because I feel tired, that would have been unheard of pre bypass.

The surgery itself only takes about 10 more minutes than the band, it is laparoscopic, and it is also fully reversible, no part of your anatomy is removed, just adjusted. I found that the recovery was quicker too.

And the best part is that I have lost 3.5 stone since the surgery, and still losing it slowly. Food is now about nutrition, and is no longer an addiction.

specialsubject Tue 23-Apr-13 10:44:53

If you want to pay for medical treatment, spend on the psychiatric and other help which is what you actually need. Your problem is in your head, not your stomach - there's no shame in that but please get the right body part treated.

a gastric band is not a cure. You eat soup for the rest of your life, or you keep eating, throw up and eventually burst the band and are back to square one.

Babyroobs Tue 23-Apr-13 10:51:16

My weight issues sound similar to yours. I am a size 20 and feel disgusted with myself. However I would never have a gastric band, I've known someone who had complications following gastric band surgery and can now only be tube fed. I'm not prepared to risk it but that's just my personal opinion. I ahve just bought the paul Mckenna hypnotic gastric band book and will try that .

MansView Tue 23-Apr-13 12:13:58

yes, having a band won't solve your issue - you'll need to get the relevant support afterwards...

Iwishitwouldgetwarmer Tue 23-Apr-13 14:05:09

I've just ordered the Paul Mckenna Gastric Bypass book from Amazon as I've heard some good things about it. Here's the link:

bollockstoit Tue 23-Apr-13 14:36:57

Do you binge op? If so, this blog is worth a look, it has helped me.

emsyj Tue 23-Apr-13 18:45:30

For the poster who asked me to link to the Paul McKenna thing, a couple of folk have already posted links to the book on Amazon but here are the Mumsnet threads about his methods:

I Can Make You Thin thread

Hypnotic Gastric Band thread

Samu2 Tue 23-Apr-13 19:24:40

I haven't had hyno for a gastric band but I have had it for severe health anxiety and I can honestly say that it is changing my life.

Don't dismiss it, try it first smile

Samu2 Tue 23-Apr-13 19:26:49

My hypnotherapist charges £145 for three sessions for the gastric band.

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