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OH Godchildren

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skincaid · 21/04/2013 22:21

SIL has asked OH to be GP to her DC, but not me, his wife?

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skincaid · 21/04/2013 22:21

Just that really.

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WorraLiberty · 21/04/2013 22:22

That's pretty normal isn't it?

I mean 1 from each side of the family

Or 1 family and 1 friend?

DomesticCEO · 21/04/2013 22:23

Very normal. I'm godmother but dh wasn't asked to be godfather.

Not sure what you're upset about!

Is your dh your SIL's brother?

MmeLindor · 21/04/2013 22:23

This is your DH's sister?

I don't think it is common to ask both spouses, just the person you want as a GP.

swlmum · 21/04/2013 22:24

Isn't that normal? My SIL are his mothers to my DC's. didn't cross my mind to ask their husbands as well.

ArabellaBeaumaris · 21/04/2013 22:24

My DC have 8 godparents between them & we haven't asked a single couple!

swlmum · 21/04/2013 22:25

God' not 'his' ...

Lindyhopper29 · 21/04/2013 22:25

My children have no godparents at all and have never suffered any problems so don't see what all the fuss is about

TidyDancer · 21/04/2013 22:26

Wats the problem with that?

I am godmother to a 3-year-old girl and will also be to her unborn brother. DP is/will be godfather to neither. Nothing wrong there.

skincaid · 21/04/2013 22:26

Not upset, just unsure how it works. Just thought as we're married we'd both be asked?

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MooncupGoddess · 21/04/2013 22:27

It would be weird to ask a couple - surely the spouse of a GP becomes a bit of a surrogate godparent anyway? Much better to spread the love.

Springforward · 21/04/2013 22:27

Another vote for "normal" here, or at least among my own family/ friends.

TidyDancer · 21/04/2013 22:27

It's nothing to do with being married. Without wishing to sound harsh, why on earth would you think it was?!

Jinsei · 21/04/2013 22:28

I'm a godmother but DH wasn't asked to be a godfather. The child's mum is a close friend of mine, DH would never have expected to be asked.

CloudsAndTrees · 21/04/2013 22:29

It's completely normal. I'm a godparent to a child that my DH isn't godparent to, it's a non issue.

LalyRawr · 21/04/2013 22:29

Personally I find it weird that family members are Godparents. They already have a relationship with your children (Aunt, Uncle etc) so I always found it a bit unnessecary to have them as Godparents as well.

My DD's God parents are a couple! Though I count both as best friends seperately anyway.

IneedAyoniNickname · 21/04/2013 22:30

Both my dc have both parts f a couple, plus one other as god parents. I'm nor sure what the norm is, we asked who.we wanted, bit non relatives only.

skincaid · 21/04/2013 22:30

I'm just unsure what GP duties are, and whats involved.

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cantspel · 21/04/2013 22:31

my oh is a godparent to all 3 of his brothers children. i am godparent to no one.

WorraLiberty · 21/04/2013 22:31

Tbh unless you're religious I think the whole thing is a pile of bollocks.

If you're going to be close to a child growing up, then you're going to be close to them.

Being a GP or not, will never change that.

skincaid · 21/04/2013 22:32

Thanks for the replies.

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thegreylady · 21/04/2013 22:34

Not usual to ask both spouses at all. It is often someone who is not a relative to expand the child's circle of care if it is ever needed.

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Numberlock · 21/04/2013 22:37

Agreed Worra. I have no contact with my godson due to divorce and one of my son's godfather has never shown any interest.
But plenty of other family friends involved in their lives who aren't godparents.

MmeLindor · 21/04/2013 22:40

Well, officially, you agree to take responsibility for the child's welfare should something happen to the parents, I think.

Since the child is your DH's niece or nephew, I would hope that he would do that anyway, in the event of being needed.

Angelico · 21/04/2013 22:43

I don't know anyone who has asked a couple. We certainly didn't.

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