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AIBU?

to think that smoking weed is distasteful?

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TheSeventhHorcrux · 19/04/2013 18:53

My best friend recently revealed that she smokes a lot of weed, as does her new boyfriend and most of her friends.
My OH also knows a lot of weed-smokers but doesn't himself.
It seems like it is more common than I thought, a little like smoking tobacco.

I have never smoked weed (which means that I'm not allowed to judge in my best friends opinion) and do think less of people who do.

It stinks, kills brain cells and, of course, is illegal.

If you need to relax have a cup of tea, do some yoga or some other legal, less smelly hobby.

AIBU to dislike weed and the casual attitude surrounding this drug?

(be nice! I'm not an evil witch trying to squash fun)

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doubleshotespresso · 19/04/2013 18:57

I detest it, for all the reasons you detailed, but am in a similar situation to yourself.... Many friends do, mostly to "unwind" from work etc but it does hinder social arrangements and youbarebright absolutely stinks!

HollyBerryBush · 19/04/2013 18:59

I've never taken an illegal substance and I judge those who do.

I await someone to come along and tell me they are 73 and it eases their arthritis

CloudsAndTrees · 19/04/2013 18:59

Yanbu to dislike it. There are lots of valid reasons for disliking it. YABU to think less of people that smoke it unless you also think less of people that have a glass of wine. To many people, it's not really that different. It does smell, but people can smell in private if they want to.

Lj8893 · 19/04/2013 19:01

I've done it all in my younger wild single days and to be honest had a blast!!! Done Amsterdam twice and have no bad memories.

However when I grew up (about 24 yrs old) got into a serious relationship and settled down I put all that behind me and don't miss it, it's nt something I would have ever wanted to do as a continuous hobby!

HeySoulSister · 19/04/2013 19:01

wine is LEGAL tho??

Bowlersarm · 19/04/2013 19:01

What age are you OP? I'm in my 40's and know no one who smokes weed. Is it a generational thing?

NiceTabard · 19/04/2013 19:02

If she's your best friend I'm surprised you didn't know before.

If she's your best friend it would be a shame to alter your opinion of her based on something that has been happening while you have been friends with her anyway.

Branleuse · 19/04/2013 19:02

you can like or dislike as you please, but what they do in their own homes in private isn't really any of your business

TheSeventhHorcrux · 19/04/2013 19:03

I am 21.

My best friends boyfriend who smokes it is 40 (a whole 'nother thread on that subject) and my other best friend is 37 and she and all her, similarly aged, friends smoke it too.

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NiceTabard · 19/04/2013 19:03

Social circles bowlersarm rather than age I think.

Surprised that 2 people who are best friends could be in this situation.

lovelilies · 19/04/2013 19:03

I used to smoke a lot of weed in my early 20s....
Had a blast!
Then I grew up and look back with fond memories....

TheSeventhHorcrux · 19/04/2013 19:04

Don't get me wrong, I'm not talking about my best friend in particularly - she is wonderful and I love her - She just bought it to light to me how casually some people treat weed.

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TheSeventhHorcrux · 19/04/2013 19:05

not talking about my best friend in particular*

I have butter fingers today! must be all that pot

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catgirl1976 · 19/04/2013 19:06

I think most people grow out of it

I smoked it from about 14 to 22 but wouldn't dream of doing so now

A bit like wearing hot pants or drinking Hooch

nenevomito · 19/04/2013 19:07

You're not unreasonable to dislike it, but what other people do in their own homes / spare time / at parties and so on and so on is nowt to do with you.

I know a lot of people who smoke, or have smoked or still occasionally smoke weed. I did when I was younger, but not any more as it really doesn't mix with a family and a job, but if offered at a party probably wouldn't say no.

Its only a problem IMO if its done to excess, but lets face lots of things are a problem if its done to excess.

quirrelquarrel · 19/04/2013 19:07

I smoke quite a bit of weed, a few times a week. I take a high dose of ADs and weed helps more.....I tend to go more for sativa (mental high) and really appreciate the way it makes me totally slow down and go into a very rare calm state, more a stoned feeling than high. I know my dealer and the stuff I get is pure bud, reasonably priced and I don't usually have it alone. It's also made me cut way down on alcohol. When I think of the place I was two years ago, very down and in the dark, and I realise the progress I've made, I can't help being grateful to weed, because it has made a difference. Tea doesn't cut it OP :)

Of course you can judge if you haven't taken weed, but then at the same time it's harder for you to balance the negatives against the positives....which is what everyone has to do if they want to answer a Q like this properly.
There's heaps more I could say but just wanted to get initial thoughts out.

VerySmallSqueak · 19/04/2013 19:09

I find the word 'distasteful' a bit odd.

I used to smoke a bit of puff way back when,but it was different stuff then.

Skunk now is a completely different thing and I wouldn't go near it.

If others want to do it,it's up to them. But I prefer to be around people who don't.

Bowlersarm · 19/04/2013 19:11

Ah ok not an age thing then. Just control it then when you can, when they're in your home, but there's not much you can do to influence them otherwise. But if she's wonderful and you love her then it doesn't matter if that part of her life doesn't impact on you?

BloggingAboutTediousThings · 19/04/2013 19:13

I hate hate hate the smell. It is horrible. I judge people who smoke weed but I am lucky enough not to have friends who do.

TheSeventhHorcrux · 19/04/2013 19:14

It's not really affecting my opinion of her and it certainly isn't affecting my relationship with her - I was just using it as an example as to how unusually common it is.

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Lj8893 · 19/04/2013 19:15

Saying that, I know some extremely successful people who love nothing better than a spliff at the end of the day, they don't make a big thing about it and if I didn't know them as well as I do I wouldn't even know they did it.

OnTheNingNangNong · 19/04/2013 19:16

I smoked weed and took a lot of illegal drugs in my teens. By 18 I had got bored of it all and had a LTR with a man who would have ended it if I used drugs, so I stopped and haven't touched anything in about 9 years.

YANBU to judge, but YABU to let it affect a friendship that's been good so far.

janey68 · 19/04/2013 19:17

I think smoking is pretty rank full stop. Weed is mixed with tobacco to smoke so it's no better than smoking a packet of bog standard fags- ie: smelly and full of toxins. If people need to chill, there are plenty of non harmful and non smelly methods instead.

TheSeventhHorcrux · 19/04/2013 19:17

Again, nothing to do with my best friend! I'm talking about weed in general.

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NiceTabard · 19/04/2013 19:18

I think it is very common in some social groups and absolutely frowned up in others. The two groups don't generally mix well which I why I wondered how you two were best friends! Especially so young - when I was 21 I had TMI to the max about what my friends were up to, as they did me! And because we were friends it was generally the same sort of thing IYSWIM.

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