To find the 10 o'clock news so upsetting(28 Posts)
That I had trouble falling asleep? DP says this is not normal. There was a story last night about an 11 year old girl who was subjected to a 3 hour rape ordeal and I caught this story just as I was heading off to bed. I couldn't sleep for thinking about this poor girl and her family and how she was ever going to live a life after that. I'm not like this with all news stories, in fact have never had trouble sleeping after hearing news, I just found this particularly sad. Bit sick of DP with his what's normal policing. I think I am more sensitive to bad stories since having kids. So AIBU?
I stopped watching the news after having children, it's way too upsetting.
It's not "normal" to have trouble falling asleep after watching the news, no.
It's also not so unusual that you should be worried that there is something wrong with you.
Assuming that you don't need to watch the news for some reason, stop watching. If something upsets you, and there's no good reason that you need to see it, just avoid it.
I had to stop watching the news when I had my children too and although I have only just begun to watch it again, I cannot read any book or watch any film that makes me even a little bit tense, nothing violent and definitely nothing involving children.
I think it is perfectly reasonable to feel this way!
I think sometimes a particular story can play on your mind so no YANBU!
Not watching the news though - don't get that bit. I am not into politics at all (wish I understood it more to be honest) but I do like to catch the news now and again just to keep up with what's going on in the world. Not watching it doesn't mean shit doesn't happen.
It is actually possible to have a life after you've been raped.
Some news stories really, really get to me. I was on a bus recently which had a little TV above the back of the driver's cab, with ads for local restaurants / local weather report etc taking up most of the screen, and news headlines scrolling along the bottom. One news headline scrolled across which was just horrific, to do with a local elderly woman being brutally killed in her own home, and I was just floored.
The fact that it was scrolling along the bottom of a screen, with a restaurant and above it, and bus commuters all chatting away made it so much sadder, and the fact that something so terrible had happened locally, yet seemed to be met with such indifference, made me feel sad and ashamed of the way our society is becoming. Maybe I over-reacted, but...maybe I didn't. Maybe we're all beoming a bit too innoculated to terrible things.
The story about the woman who committed suicide and took her child with her a few weeks back had me sobbing loudly and messily at my desk at work a few weeks back. I absently scrolled to the BBC site during my break. I was still crying hard about it when I got home.
But then, I'm depressed and undergoing CBT and am not supposed to deliberately watch upsetting things.
I don't think there is anything wrong with the suggestion that you avoid the news if you are finding it upsetting
Yes, the event are still occurring but sometimes just turning over is the best thing to do. You don't have to watch.
I completely avoid the news when there is a very upsetting story (Baby P comes to mind) - I got all my information from the short daytime radio news items, and completely ignored the newspapers and tv for days.
I also haven't looked at any of the images from Boston.
There is nothing at all wrong with avoiding traumatising news stories ... infact if you are diagnosed with depression you are advised to do so.
I find anything to do with children way too upsetting to watch on the news. I find tears rolling down my face. It's obviously been particularly bad this week. The face of that wee lad in Boston is just so beautiful.
But then again I cried at the first episode of the village when the lad was caned for being left handed.
I am a wreck.
I get cross about graphic descriptions on the 6 o'clock news, but the 10 o'clock one is well past the watershed and they're ok then.
OP: perhaps you could get news from print media, as versions with stills only tend to be less intrusive.
I remember obsessing about horrible things (won't say what, don't want to trigger anyone ) to a point where I was completely mad with it. It turned out I was having sort of breakdown - my dh used to come to the doctors with me and aked her if it was 'normal' behaviour to be obsessive about such awful things. It can be a sign of something going a bit wrong mentally for sure, but on the other hand, it's normal compassionate behaviour to be sad. I've had lots of help now and recognise the difference.
OP, I am a hard faced cow (as my mother kindly puts it) and above all I'm practical, not particularly sentimental and have little time for people that are 'woe is me' and so on - I'm very "Come on, pull your socks up, lets find an answer, no point crying over spilt milk"
Since having DD (8) I have discovered that certain news items, stories, TV programmes and books can reduce me to a snotty, snivelling wreck.
I can't watch "Meerkat Manor" because of an episode when Flower had to leave her pups behind. Any episodes of my favourite crime drams that involve children give me nightmares. Sophies Choice would just about kill me. News stories (like the suicide one mentioned above) have to be glossed over, and the endless digging, reporting and conspiracy theories about Madeline McCann have been studiously ignored.
I am a wuss - but I'm OUT and PROUD. I don't know what DD did to my insides or my hormones, but there is no point in me being ashamed or worried about it. It's just me. I cry - A LOT - and my loved ones will just have to get used to it.
Since I had DC I avoid certain newspapers, like Metro, and edit what I read about anything with dead children in it. I find it hard to deal with and so avoid it.
But if your reaction seem extreme to others, maybe you should consider a visit to GP. As others have said it is indicative of depression.
News is bad for you
Well argued article that news plays on our weaknesses and can be toxic
I think it is normal to have things play on your mind it is human to be affected sometimes, although not being able to sleep and getting truly upset is worrying not abnormal but a little concerning, but I think everybody wil do it a particular news story , I remember I couldn't stop thinking about that poor girl who was gang raped on a bus her father speaking on the news was heartbreaking,
I wouldn't miss the news to avoid sad stories because they don't usually affect me and I think it's a pretty good idea to stay in touch with world events. But this story just stayed with me for some reason and DP saying it's not normal pissed me off. I do avoid violent films because I do get upset and think it's a bit pointless then. I wonder if having children makes you more sensitive to these things? I don'it feel depressed or obsessive about things. DP can watch violent films and drop off to sleep watching them, I don't think that's bloody normal!
I have to avoid certain programmes before I go to bed. Anything gruesome like a murder mystery or thriller I just avoid cos I end up having nightmares
I can see how it pissed you off though of course it is upsetting it happened to a little girl it is real, I think people who are not affected by things is not normal ,
If this is a one-off then I don't think there's any need to do anything specific about it. If you regularly had trouble sleeping after seeing the news then that's different but this is just a single occurence.
You husband talking about what's "normal" or not is irrelevant - presuably he has occasionally in his life been bothered by something and found it hard to sleep? It's not unusual for a parent to find stories about bad things happening to children hit them far harder than other things - you are bound to think in terms of your own children, and be more emotional about it than about other stories.
I don't know. Did your DH perhaps think that you were deliberately wallowing in it/bing mawkish about it rather than actually attempting to put it out of your mind? If he did think that and you were guilty of this to a certain extent then I can sympathise with him. I think a lot of people are guilty of being mawkish, deliberately imagining themselves in the shoes of people to whom something awful has happened and getting overly upset about it. This goes beyond just empathy/sympathy and is self-indulgent and a bit crass.
If you genuinely tried to put it out of your mind and just couldn't for once because it just got under your skin and your are not normally like this then HIBU.
I've stopped watching the news and stick to reading the paper since I've had kids.
I just hate the way their voices are so calm when they talk about that kind of story. It's like they don't care.
I know that's totally irrational, and of course they care as much as any other journalist but reading the paper solves the issue for me.
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