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Have you ever come across someone who makes you think

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CognitiveOverload Thu 18-Apr-13 20:22:58

Have you ever come across someone who made you think...if we weren't both 'taken' ...you'd be ideal smile

dilanddan Thu 18-Apr-13 20:35:17

Not exactly the same, but I went out with a guy from my 6th form when we were 16/17 and we broke up after a year. For a few years after that I stalked him on facebook always wondered what it would be like if we were still together and knew that we'd make a lovely couple.

Cut a long story short, we're both 22 now and got back together 2 years ago and have a gorgeous 9month old daughter who is our world smile So yup, we are the ideal couple I thought we were!!

Rockinhippy Thu 18-Apr-13 20:36:33

Yep, I married him some 15 odd years later smile

LondonMan Thu 18-Apr-13 20:38:49

Happened to me on my recent holiday (without DW.)

Unfortunately the idealness would have been one way. Her DH was taller, younger, thinner, more well-spoken and in a more prestigious and interesting job than me. (There are probably other ways he was a better option that I've temporarily forgotten.)

What was even more depressing, given she mentioned her age, was that using the half-your-age-plus-seven rule, this professional posh going-into-middle-age women would, depending on her month of birth, been theoretically to bloody young for me!

IneedAyoniNickname Thu 18-Apr-13 20:39:05

Yes, but we live at opposite ends of the country, and never seem to be single at the same time!

CognitiveOverload Thu 18-Apr-13 20:40:01

Lovely story smile in my case its purely fantasy...don't know much about him at all. But you know when you both just have that chemistry. I am obviously not daft enough to think that kind of chemistry is enduring as its probably mainly due to the fact we don't know each other. Gave me a pleasant feeling all the same...and I won't be seeing him again.

cees Thu 18-Apr-13 20:40:04

Yes about Tom Hardy

CognitiveOverload Thu 18-Apr-13 20:41:43

Yeah reality gets in the way London man. But we can still enjoy the fact we met them and they briefly made us feel something.

Jescha Thu 18-Apr-13 20:45:09

Lol cee I was just about to write yes, Jorah Mormont would be my perfect husband. I don't have to 'meet' him to know that.

DearJohnLoveSavannah Thu 18-Apr-13 20:48:25

Yes the love of my life. We live thousands of miles apart though and hes with someone else. Kills me every single day.

Startail Thu 18-Apr-13 20:50:24

A few possibles, not a definite replacement.

DH admits to just one. He worked with her abroad for a couple of weeks, she was engaged and he was 'expecting' his first DC.

I know nothing happened, if it had, DH would never have mentioned her existence.

Jescha Thu 18-Apr-13 20:51:28

I do believe in that initial chemistry though. I was with someone else when I met dh and thought to myself in the first week of knowing him "I bet we end up together." The relationship I was in lasted 2 more years then dh and I got together 6 months later.

Lottashakingoinon Thu 18-Apr-13 20:52:07

Well a mere 9 posts in and this thread has taught me a LOT about myself and I'm not sure I like what I've learnt.

See with you Cognitive (I am assuming you are female) I am thinking awwwwwww, how warm and fuzzy. With you Londonguy funny and self deprecating though your post is, I'm just thinking 'you effing bastard, I'm sure your DW is way too good for you anyway....' wink

CognitiveOverload Thu 18-Apr-13 20:57:56

Yes, its a controversial topic. I do think people are allowed to experience these feelings without causing issues with their current relationships. I guess it depends on the perspective of the person posting as to whether their attraction to another is problematic or not. Tricky...

SugarMiceInTheRain Thu 18-Apr-13 21:02:18

Oh yes. Pretty recently in fact I met someone with whom I could just chat for hours, we had so much in common and got on great. We pretty much both admitted that if I were single we'd definitely get together. Had to take a long hard look at myself and try very hard to think up reasons why we wouldn't be so good for each other (and that was very difficult - best I could come up with was the fact that he's 7 years younger than me) in order to stop myself thinking about him and wishing I were single and available. Even my best friend (through whom we met) reckons this guy and I were meant to meet (whatever the hell that means). confused

CognitiveOverload Thu 18-Apr-13 21:10:39

I'm sure it's bound to happen to many people. Thing is the fantasy is usually better than the reality.

LaQueen Thu 18-Apr-13 21:25:33

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

PoppyWearer Thu 18-Apr-13 21:34:37

Yes, unfortunately all of two days after I'd got together with a boyfriend at university I met someone who made my heart skip several beats.

And the new boyfriend was the nicest man in the history of the world and had patiently put my broken heart back together after a previous break-up before finally making his move. So I couldn't bring myself to dump him.

I had one of the most romantic moments of my life with this man (not the boyfriend) without anything romantic or kissy even happening.

I knew him for a few more years, but the timing was never right.

MissSusan Thu 18-Apr-13 21:37:47

Sort of, I can meet someone I could imagine dating and probably have a really good time with, but no one I could spend the rest of my life with, where as when I knew I fancied dp (we were friends for years before we got together) I knew that was it.

OkayHazel Thu 18-Apr-13 21:38:57

Johnny Depp

AuntieStella Thu 18-Apr-13 21:43:20

Yes, but only in a very transient, pleasant day-dream type way. Nothing that came close to a temptation to act.

CognitiveOverload Thu 18-Apr-13 21:45:21

Very good way of descending it auntiestella

CognitiveOverload Thu 18-Apr-13 21:45:56

Describing not descending

Minshu Thu 18-Apr-13 21:46:43

My DP. It was about 4 years from meeting to us getting together due to the relationships we had been in. I even got married and spilt up with XH in that time but couldn't stop thinking about DP from when we first met.

happybubblebrain Thu 18-Apr-13 21:54:02

I've never met anyone who comes to close to ideal, single or taken. In fact I've never met anyone who comes close to slightly compatible. I think I am the odd one out; or maybe it's just because I haven't met Johnny Depp yet - I'll fight OKayHazel for him.

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