I currently work in a college and one of the students has taken a shine to me and has started to join me for my breaks and lunchtimes.
I don't really mind, though would prefer it if she didn't because I like to spend them alone anti-social but do feel slightly pressured into it.
Yesterday the girl came rushing into my office, in tears, because she had so much coursework to do and by the sounds of it had just let it pile up on top of her. She claims she can't do any of it at home because it isn't a working environment and doesn't understand why the teachers can't give her one-on-one tutoring with her coursework.
I took her to a quiet place and tried to calm her down and talk her through some options and time management skills but she didn't seem interested and just kept changing the subject (to things that were happening, people walking by etc). She seemed to really struggle with focus which probably explained the build up of her workload. I don't think there are any huge issues here, just typical teenage angst stuff (which doesn't make it any easier for her, I know how horrible it is being 16!)
At the end of the day, she came to me again and asked me to drive her to the council so that she could apply for temporary living because she doesn't want to live with her mum and stepdad anymore (doesn't sound like they are overally supportive of her but I think it is more teenager vs parents). I declined, as I had to leave work straight away, and will continue to decline if she asks again because for safeguarding reasons I can't go with her anyway (college policy). But even if that was the case I wouldn't feel comfortable as I don't think she should move out, really don't know her that well and just don't think it is appropriate.
AIBU to not go further in helping this girl, past giving her advice?
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TheSeventhHorcrux · 17/04/2013 19:06
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