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SaveWaterDrinkMalibu Tue 16-Apr-13 09:08:46

Posted in childcare sectioned too

Am a nanny who works term time only

First day back today - walk into work to find the kitchen stacked with about 4 piles of bowls and plates etc etc - couldn't even make my charges packed lunch as no space

Mum boss tells me I need to stay in all day to tidy kitchen and do the washing - I expected 1/2 loads but no she's left me all the last 2 weeks washing and is expecting at least half done today including dried and put away

Aibu to be annoyed

patchesmcp Tue 16-Apr-13 09:11:42

Nope, I think that is pretty bad. Aren't nannys supposed to look after children not tidy the house confused

SaveWaterDrinkMalibu Tue 16-Apr-13 09:13:44

Patches - I contracted to do children's washing weekly and tidy after children.

I feel that I should wash the children's clothes they wear whilst I'm working - school holidays she should wash

LifeSavedbyLego Tue 16-Apr-13 09:16:43

That is taking the piss rather

Sugarice Tue 16-Apr-13 09:16:50

Bloody hell, she's got the neck of a giraffe!

What did you say to her regarding the washing situation? no washing done for two weeks is grim or were they away and just expecting you to clean up after them?

SaveWaterDrinkMalibu Tue 16-Apr-13 09:18:51

They were home apart from 3 days at beginning of the school holidays.

KJ007 Tue 16-Apr-13 09:24:44

Call me naive but I thought a Nanny's job was to look after the kids?? I don't leave my washing up for our cleaner to do (good job as she only comes once a month), and no washing for 2 wks?? I can't go 2 days without putting a wash on or I'd be drowning in dirty laundry!! They sound like entitled grubby gits!!

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Tue 16-Apr-13 09:28:40

Work at your own pace. I think she has a cheek but she is paying you wages so sort out any DC clothes, put on a couple of washes and dry what can be dried. I wouldn't go through another adult's clothes if I were working as the nanny.

While the washing machine's on, if there is a dishwasher load it up and unload twice. Wipe surfaces you'll use and sweep the floor if DC crawls or plays on it but draw the line at that. Anything else I think is beyond the call of duty. You're not a skivvy.

kotinka Tue 16-Apr-13 09:30:35

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SaveWaterDrinkMalibu Tue 16-Apr-13 09:31:32

I don't fancy sorting through their dirty clothes as well the kids I can deal with

SaveWaterDrinkMalibu Tue 16-Apr-13 09:32:25

Job title is Nanny

As far as I'm aware nothing has changed etc

StuntGirl Tue 16-Apr-13 09:35:32

Wash the childrens clothes and clean the bits you need to do your job. I'd then raise it with her, your job is nanny not housekeeper and you'd appreciate her ensuring your workspace is workable next time you return to work.

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Tue 16-Apr-13 09:38:33

Is she always like this or is she only just squeezing more out of you?

Tailtwister Tue 16-Apr-13 09:40:56

YANBU. You are contracted to wash the children's clothes and clean up after them whilst they are in your care. There's no way you should be expected to clear the backlog from holiday time.

I would do what you need to in order to get things straight to do your job, but would definitely be having a discussion to ensure it doesn't happen again.

SaveWaterDrinkMalibu Tue 16-Apr-13 09:44:20

Over the last few months things like this are slowly creeping in more and more

Spandler Tue 16-Apr-13 09:47:02

Sounds like she wants a full time skivvy rather than a nanny. I don't blame you for feeling pissed off

Sugarice Tue 16-Apr-13 09:49:10

Apologies if I'm wrong, is your Employer the Dad who insists on you accompanying your elder charge when he is invited to the homes of other children to play?

SaveWaterDrinkMalibu Tue 16-Apr-13 09:50:24

Sugar - dont think I've posted about that but yeh dad is a bit like that

annh Tue 16-Apr-13 09:51:05

You need to have a chat before this gets completely out of control. First day back after a break is a good time as it is so obvious that they have left an unacceptable work-load for you. I would have a word this evening before you leave and politely point out that you are a nanny, not a housekeeper and quote the part from your contract outlining your housekeeping duties in relation to the children. Meantime, I would work, at a reasonable pace, through the laundry and dishes today. Separating the clothes into the adults and children is probably possible, the dishes less so (who has enough dishes to last that long?) but if you do say 50% of them, I would expect that to more than equal what the children have used and not to have to do the rest tomorrow. Normally, I'm sure you wouldn't be so picky as to not include adult dishes or clothing in "normal" loads but this is taking the p@£s!

5alive4life Tue 16-Apr-13 09:52:17

i am a nanny and i do the washing for everyone within reason. mum,dad,and 2 children. Mum puts her and her husbands washing into the empty machine in the am and i add the childrens and put a wash in and then hang the clean clothes up. I unload the dishwasher in the morning and add to it all day,they turn it on at night. There have been times I have come on a monday and its obvious no laundry has been done all weekend but 2 weeks bloody hell thats disgusting!! id wash only childrens washing if I was their nanny today!!!

LittleBairn Tue 16-Apr-13 09:52:34

I'm a nanny I care for the children and only clean up after us. I would not be coming into clean up after them unless I had a nanny-housekeeper role. I make sure the house is clean and tidy for when I leave I expect the same courtesy for when I arrive but I don't mind putting away breakfast dishes, hanging the odd load of washing on the line but I don't clean for them.
You need to be upfront with them to make your role and duties clearer, maybe suggest they get a cleaner.

Ujjayi Tue 16-Apr-13 09:54:00

Okay so if things are slowly creeping in and changing you need to be assertive and put a stop to it now. It sounds like a prudent time to ask for a review of your employment/performance (ie giving you the opportunity to say what you think and feel too).

She is taking the proverbial if she hasn't done any washing for two weeks and has left you with a stack of pots to wash. Sorry to hear you are being subjected to this kind of p*ss take. Some people have an over inflated sense of entitlement - particularly relating to anyone they employ. However, their entitlement extends only as far as the T&Cs of your contract and they clearly need a reminder of that fact.

As others have said, do the DCs washing but do it at your own pace. You are a nanny, not a housekeeper so personally, I would ignore the pots that need washing (unless you actually need them to use today) and clear up after yourself and DCs only.

5alive4life Tue 16-Apr-13 09:54:34

sugar that is my employer and I actually sent charge on a play to friends house right before school holidays. younger charge had gunky eye so i called mum and said older would miss out can I not just pick dc up after tea as I didnt think it was fair to bring gunky eye charge to another home. dad was raging but mum said it was okay!

ThreeWheelsGood Tue 16-Apr-13 09:57:17

Legally speaking in the UK I think a nanny is not meant to do housework etc unless contacted. You're a qualified childcare giver.

Sugarice Tue 16-Apr-13 09:58:26

5alive I knew there was a neurotic dad some poor Nanny on mn had to deal with! hmm

Dad was raging was he, how odd he is, don't suppose things have changed then?

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