I have a 6yo and a 3yo. The 6yo is very sensible for her age, the 3yo is very crazy, even for 3.
I am completely against leaving them in the house alone - I would be more likely to send DD1 on a minor errand if need be, although obviously the first preference is for me to go and take both children. In our old town we lived on an estate where she could avoid roads entirely and she had loads of freedom, but here it is a grid system so she can't get far without crossing a road, so I've clipped her wings a bit while I check her road sense and get her a bit more streetwise.
So, I would never go to the shop at the end of the street (5 small terraced houses and across a road away) leaving children in the house. I would never take or collect DD1 from school or rainbows (maybe ten houses away) without taking DD2 too.
But I would leave them in the house, with the front door open, while I knock on next door for a parcel - although they do tend to follow me out.
I would leave them in the house while I put the wheelie bin out the back gate into the ginnel for the binmen.
In my mums house, I would go and sit in the granny flat with my nana, while the kids are asleep in the spare room in the extension at the other side of the house, even though that is about as far away as a different semi detached house (ie bigger than the terrace I live in - it would be about next door but one here, because these houses are quite tiny)
The other week, I missed the recycling van, and without thinking left DD2 in the house (door open, if that makes a difference) while I ran up the street with the boxes - the van was parked next to the corner shop.
It was only later on that I realised that wasn't a good idea. I think it was because I didn't have shoes on that I didn't click that I was still effectively leaving my baby unattended.
Also, why do I feel happier sending the 6yo out than going out and leaving the 6yo in, even if we take the 3yo out of the calculation?
so, we need a hard and fast rule. What is acceptable, what isn't?
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to try to work out the "boundaries" of how far away you can be from your child?
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BrittaPie · 15/04/2013 22:42
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