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idontbeeleaveit Mon 15-Apr-13 21:32:10

Am going to be working away during the week, returning at weekends for a short period (5 weeks.) Original plan was to stay in a premier inn and work are paying for this (I am going to be going to a new workplace just to bridge a gap on a temporary basis.)

DP tells me I should, on my first day, announce in the meeting that I need somewhere to stay during the week.

I can't think of anything worse. I don't want to stay in a stranger's house, I'd feel really embarrassed at asking and after a day at work I want to chill out, watch bad TV and eat takeaways, but DP thinks I should save the money.

I can see his point but I really don't fancy it. AIBU?

OutragedFromLeeds Mon 15-Apr-13 21:34:10

You're not going to be saving money by staying in someone's house anyway if work are paying for the premier inn.

YANBU it's very daft.

The people that you work with will think you're a loon.

Worriedmumofan8yearoldgirl Mon 15-Apr-13 21:34:27

Send an email out. We get them every so often at work when a newly qualified comes to play on a short term contract

deadduck Mon 15-Apr-13 21:34:40

I'm with you. No thanks shock.

Pollykitten Mon 15-Apr-13 21:34:50

If work are paying for it what is the problem? YANBU to want to chill out at the end of the day and I agree it would seem unprofessional to throw yourself on someone's hospitality.

PebblePots Mon 15-Apr-13 21:35:03

No way, don't say that, it'd be really awkward for everyone!

rumbelina Mon 15-Apr-13 21:35:08

No, yanbu. At all. If work want you to work away and are prepared to pay, the money is irrelevant.

HomeEcoGnomist Mon 15-Apr-13 21:35:39

How/why would you save money if work are paying for it?

Don't ask - poor colleagues will squirm. would your DP volunteer to put someone up if situation was reversed?!

Cherriesarelovely Mon 15-Apr-13 21:35:58

I would feel the same as you. There is no way I would stand up on my first day and say that. I would hate to be hanging around a strangers house too.

maddening Mon 15-Apr-13 21:36:06

daft and why would you want to put strangers out.

it isn't his money to save plus you'd feel obliged to buy food and wine etc

DunderMifflin Mon 15-Apr-13 21:36:40

I'd feel the same as you - who wouldn't? Apart from your DH!

idontbeeleaveit Mon 15-Apr-13 21:37:35

Thank god it isn't just me grin I got an incredulous look and "well, you know what you SHOULD do?"

Outraged I get relocation expenses so theoretically I could pocket the extra and annoy some poor colleague but it makes my blood run cold even if someone was willing to have me stay with them which I doubt

firawla Mon 15-Apr-13 21:37:43

Noooo way - dh idea is ridiculous. You would be really imposing on people, or possibly wouldn't even get anyone to volunteer for it. Just get the hotel.
Staying in someone's house is cheaper but that just means you are transferring the cost from yourselves onto a stranger/work mate - which would be really out of order.

iwantavuvezela Mon 15-Apr-13 21:37:54

Ask your DH iif he would like an unknown work person staying with you for 5 weeks to save money. As much as you won't like staying with someone, they will also want to just go home and chill. Stay at the premier inn, it's paid for, and relax. You can't just stay withvacstranger for free, I would be annoyed if someone was staying with me to save money, as opposed to not having a place to stay.

Floggingmolly Mon 15-Apr-13 21:37:59

I wouldn't fancy it either hmm. How would you save the money, your employers would have to see the hotel bills before reimbursing you, surely, or even insist on paying directly?
Always assuming someone is actually going to offer you a place to stay.
It's extremely unlikely, they'll probably just point you in the direction of the nearest Premier Inn!

Lj8893 Mon 15-Apr-13 21:37:59

I don't understand how you would save money by not staying at a premier inn if work are paying for it?

I totally am on your wavelength about not wanting to stay at a strangers house! If work are willing to pay for hotel accommodation grab hold of that chance!

MrsOakenshield Mon 15-Apr-13 21:38:19

It's their money! I would hate to be put up in a colleague's house for 5 weeks, grim.

verytellytubby Mon 15-Apr-13 21:38:30

How would it save money?

I couldn't imagine anything worse and I'm really laid back/relaxed.

idontbeeleaveit Mon 15-Apr-13 21:40:39

very - work are giving me a relocation package including travelling costs and hotel costs. DP's logic is that if I don't spend this we keep the money. But I don't want to stay with a stranger and like I say, I can't see anyone offering anyway I wouldn't

pictish Mon 15-Apr-13 21:40:44

Your dh is mad!

1. No.
2. If your work don't need to pay for your accomodation, they won't.
3. Shut up.
4. No!

ChippingInLovesSpring Mon 15-Apr-13 21:41:11

Your DH needs his bumps felt.

Icelollycraving Mon 15-Apr-13 21:41:13

He is off his head. Hth.

verytellytubby Mon 15-Apr-13 21:42:06

Oh I see. Definitely not. I'd lose money to stay in the hotel grin

idontbeeleaveit Mon 15-Apr-13 21:42:48

I think he is, I sometimes wonder if he has a mild sort of aspergers as he genuinely doesn't seem to get why this would be totally, completely inappropriate and why it would embarrass people.

He also approaches strangers if it starts raining and asks to share their umbrellas hmm

VelvetSpoon Mon 15-Apr-13 21:43:42

I agree, your DP is completely mad.

Aside from the horror of staying in a stranger's house for weeks (I couldn't even bear staying with a friend for that long!) I imagine your employers will expect to see receipts for the hotel etc, even if they don't I can't imagine it would show you in a good light for claiming the cost of something you haven't actually paid for.

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