Hi, so VERY excited about this being my first AIBU post...!
Basically my sister REALLY wound me up last night and not sure if its hormones, sibling rivalry or that fact that she's just a bit of a pain in the arse.
Background is that she has struggled with depression on and off for years, but is one of those people who when she is well you will never hear from, does not respond to calls/texts/emails etc, but when she feels down she expects you to drop everything to speak to her. She's currently really well and has got a fab live in job about 50 miles away from home and has been living away very happily since last September. BUT...
Last night approx midnight (never in normal hours!) I got a message from her saying that she wanted me to find her a job here because she wanted to start seeing a bloke up here (she dated him a few times at the start of the year but finished it with him and has since had a relationship with another man who she also dumped twice), when I said that it probably wasn't advisable to leave a good well paid job with prospects to start a relationship with a man she had previously dumped, she then changed tact and said that she was homesick and was worried about becoming depressed as a result. I then sent a long worried message to which she replied that she would tell me the full story when she hasn't just taken a sleeping tablet (if it was that important why start something you can't finish?!) So I said please do because I will worry, and she asked me why?! I pointed out that she had mentioned becoming depressed again and she said that all she had wanted was for me to let her know of any jobs that would be suitable (I don't work in her sector, and am not job seeking myself so would not reasonably have ever come across jobs for her which she knows)
She then said that if I was worried I could call her because I never do (?!) and when I said she could maybe call me she said it wouldn't be until Friday as she was busy!!
So then I was really wound up, couldn't sleep for ages, DP says to ignore her but I'm really riled!
So AIBU for being annoyed that 1) she decided to message me with this at midnight on a Saturday because I don't feel I can leave it until the next day to respond in case she does something daft, 2) seems to want to dump a decent job for a bloke she hardly knows (she literally cannot be single, she is desperate for a BF), 3) that she made it out to be a huge deal and worried me by mentioning becoming depressed again but then backtracked when I made suggestions about how to tackle it, 4) said she couldn't discuss it until Friday?!
I think I'm mainly annoyed because I've barely heard from her the whole time I've been PG (I had a MC last year so she knows how worried I've been about this one but hasn't texted etc to check up on me) which is fine, but then seems to expect it from me! Or AIBU?!
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Repeatedlydoingthetwist · 14/04/2013 11:09
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