...and NOT go to the optional lecture which my former tutor is giving?
Not to be rude or for any personal reason. It's just that I've already heard at least 100 of my former tutor's lectures and know her research inside out. The idea wasn't to travel all that way and spend all that money just to hear more of her. It would be nice to hear what some of the other delegates have to say, especially some of the overseas ones.
Does that sound awful? Will she feel I'm not showing my support, do you think? I don't want to upset her as she's my main referee.