This is quite a long post I apologise!
I am 12 weeks pregnant, me and dp live in a town (we moved here for work purposes) where asides from my work colleagues I have no contacts here.
DP was unhappy in his job (2 mins down the road) and his mum offered for him to come and work for her, the plan was for him to be working in a location ( location A) where he was able to get a train there and back, he works long hours but would be able to make the last train at 10.30pm.
We both agreed this was a sensible idea, espessially since we were hoping to move back to this location A ( (my home town) when I start maternity leave.
Circumstances changed and he ended up working for her in a different location (B) which is closer but not with easy public transport. He gets a bus there every day and his mum gives him a lift home. He's rarely home before 10pm but I can cope with that.
However, soon after starting they came to an arrangement that as there is no bus on Sundays he would stay over Saturday nights. I wasent particully happy about this but what could I do, he needs to work!
Several other evenings, he has rang me to say that they are really busy and he was going to have to stay over. Or he has agreed to an early shift so staying over the night before.
Pretty much every week since he has started with her he has probably stayed here in our home, 4 nights a week at most. (Not consecutive)
I'm already very hormonal and emotional and this is just making me so lonely and down and upset. When he's not here I am crying myself to sleep.
I finally told him all this last night on the phone, after yet another time he has rang to say he has to stay. And although supportive and in agreement with me, there was no suggestions or offers of compromise.
It's his birthday tomorrow so after work tonight I am assuming they are having a bit of a night out, him, his mum and sisters but he hasent actually told me this as such. I know its his birthday and unfair of me to be selfish, but I do feel like "ah great, so I'm here sat at home alone crying again and he's out drinking and having fun"
He will also be having a massive night out next weekend for his sisters birthday, so yet another night of me feeling like this.
Am I being a complete selfish hormonal bitch or not?
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Lj8893 · 13/04/2013 22:27
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