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I am feeling very lonely right now and need someone to just listen please

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Ohsonothappy Sat 13-Apr-13 21:34:43

Ok where do I start, do not get on with neighbours as I was threatened in front of the children by one of them, they write notes trying to get rise out of me about parking anything they can think of etc, and I feel I can not breathe where we live.

I Found a home swap, and she then pulled out last minute this week , I have lost over £500 to pay out for for things in the house and time off work etc that have gone wrong.

The last straw was a water leak from the boiler leading to waiting for a part ,jand having no hot water for a week with young children, and trying to start a new job.

Applied for a shared ownership but because we could not get paper work in time because I packed to move I mislaid the paper work so we have missed the chance to move.

I have just dissolved into tears and I am really upset and stressed right now I have never felt so down as I do right now.

I know I should be grateful for having two beautiful kids and a roof over our heads but I feel like saying throwing the towel in so aibu and a spoilt brat.

Wannabestepfordwife Sat 13-Apr-13 21:38:46

Yanbu and your not being a spoilt brat!

You sound like your going through hell and you just want to dp the best for your dc.

Could you keep a diary of what's happening because it's harrassment and you really don't need to put up with it.

Are you a lp or do you have a dp

poppycock6 Sat 13-Apr-13 21:39:10

So sorry to hear your troubles. I hope things improve soon flowers

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Sat 13-Apr-13 21:39:17

thanks sorry you are feeling rubbish at the moment. You have a lot on your plate.

This too will pass.

BOF Sat 13-Apr-13 21:40:21

You're stressed to fuck- be kind to yourself. How can we help? I have some funny links to cheer you up?

BumpingFuglies Sat 13-Apr-13 21:41:33

Bless you what a hell of a lot going on! Always the way, life chucks it at you all at once.

SirBoobAlot Sat 13-Apr-13 21:42:28

No practical help to offer but a non-MN hug and brew coming your way.

Nombrechanger Sat 13-Apr-13 21:43:09

Of course you're not a spoilt brat and YANBU.
It's horrible when you fall out with your neighbours. Most things you can walk away from but you know your neighbours aren't going anywhere soon. I feel out with my neighbours because they're mental twats who like to feel like they're intimidating us but take comfort in the fact that they're getting stressed out because of you. Hopefully one of them will have a heart attack. I'm only joking! no I'm not
Life can feel shitty sometimes but don't let stupid arseholes get you down.

BumpingFuglies Sat 13-Apr-13 21:43:39

Are you on your own? Can anyone be with you?

NotTreadingGrapes Sat 13-Apr-13 21:46:50

Aww bless you. These things always come all together don't they?

My upstairs neighbours are madsters who use the washer at 4am <grrrr>

Sending you some flowers to go with the cuppa up there. x

toriap2 Sat 13-Apr-13 21:47:30

flowers It always seems everything happens t once but things will get easier soon I'm sure

silverbaubles33 Sat 13-Apr-13 21:49:10

Just sending you a huge hug. Not bratty at all, just trying to cope with a lot of stress.

I really hope it all works put for you and you can look back with pride at a really shitty time that you found the strength to get through.

Very best of luck.

Thurlow Sat 13-Apr-13 21:49:12

That's a horrible run of things, I'm sorry. Is there anything we can do to help? Do you just need some cheering up, or is there anything practical someone can advise on?

BOF Sat 13-Apr-13 21:49:53

If you need cheering up...

Orangerevel Sat 13-Apr-13 21:50:05

Sometimes things get too much. Don't let the neighbours get you down, hopefully they will move on. I hope things get easier for you very soon.

Ohsonothappy Sat 13-Apr-13 21:50:35

I just am so disappointed in myself I have worked so hard to be where I am right now promised my kids I would give them a better life and feel I have let them down.

To the point I went off and cried alone and they found me , never cried in front of them and they cuddles me and dried my tears.

I am the most positive person in real life and this last two weeks I have been tested to the limit to the point where my last job this is the best thing that ever happened to me by being given this job trust me that is another story.

I have a dp who is doing everything he can to change our circumstances, I have boxes at pil that I had packed will now have to get back .

Everything is out of our hands right now and I feel lost, I have never felt so useless.

I have reported and kept a diary the neighbours think we are leaving soon so they are on there best behaviour.

Bridgetbidet Sat 13-Apr-13 21:50:46

That's horrible. It has made me feel really sad actually, what an awful situation.

If you are renting why are you paying out for things that go wrong? That should be your landlords responsibility.

Keep up with trying to get a house swap. Is there an area where you have family or friends that you could try and swap to? If you're feeling depressed about it then it might be worth going to your GP and asking if they could write to your housing association about how this is affecting you to see if it would help you put a rocket under them to help you move somewhere you'd have more support.

Wannabestepfordwife Sat 13-Apr-13 21:55:15

Would the woman who pulled out of the swap be liable for any of the costs.

Don't feel bad for crying in front of your children your obviously an amazing mum and with what your going through your bound to be stressed, upset and on edge.

Hope somebody can offer some practical support

Wannabestepfordwife Sat 13-Apr-13 21:55:57

Posted too soon
I can only do moral support

Bridgetbidet Sat 13-Apr-13 21:56:08

You haven't let your kids down. You're having a rough couple of weeks and have had a a few knocks so of course you are feeling upset. You are doing your absolute best for your kids, a lot of people don't even try to do half what you're doing, let alone be as proactive and determined as you sound like you are.

This is a setback but it's not forever. Sometimes if things are not meant to be they're not meant to be. It's hard at the time but often something even better is waiting around the corner.

You are NOT useless, look at all the things you are doing to make life better for your kids. I understand totally why you are feeling upset but please try to view this as just a setback. You sound like you are both working so hard and doing as much as you can, it will get better for you.

Ohsonothappy Sat 13-Apr-13 22:05:39

Thank you everyone I feel so much better, the homeswap that pulled out was for the best I was just settling for second best it was a way out for me if I have to be honest.

The rest the landlord have put right but we had to pay out for the car which is down to us, our washing machine packed up that was down to us.

Thank you for listening xx

Growlithe Sat 13-Apr-13 22:10:39

Right, the house swap - we can't sort that quickly, so you are going to have to sit tight, and keep looking. Tomorrow, get a box and get all the paperwork that could be remotely relevant, put it in and put it somewhere accessible. Then you are ready to act as soon as an opportunity comes up.

How much of a hassle are your neighbours? What are their issues with you and how are they threatening you? What do they write on the notes?

Your most pressing issue is your boiler. I know how hard this can be when you have small children. What model is it? Who is fixing it? What's the hold up with the part? What is the part? It is ridiculous that they have left you a week without hot water. Do you think you could put some pressure on them to get it done quicker?

Break your problems down, detail them one by one, and we might get people on here with experience on each individual problem who can advise you.

We are right behind you so don't feel lonely. flowers

Lessthanaballpark Sat 13-Apr-13 22:14:14

OP, don't be hard on yourself. Having nasty neighbours is enough to get anyone down.

Try to focus on what you have that's great. Your DC sound lovely. So what if you cried in front of them. You are human and it doesn't harm them to see that.

Sending you thanks

notsoyoniface Sat 13-Apr-13 22:24:57

Well my ma and pa's electric boiler blew this morning nearly electrocuting me in the process it is ha and they sent out a gas man instead of an electric man!

No hot water and I still smell like last nights sex not a regular occurrence. A 'whore's bath' will only last so long... I am envisioning a cold shower in the morning wink

In the mean time just think 'this to shall pass'. smile

Ohsonothappy Sat 13-Apr-13 22:36:51

Growlithe have grabbed a box and took that on board, thank you.

Bumping I have a dp he is recovering from a vomiting virus at the moment.

Wannabe the ha have now taken care of it but our car needed some work which is our responsibility , and so was the washing smachine that packed up at the same time. X

Bog you have cheered me up thank you xx

Thank you to everyone to have replied I feel so much better xx

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