dd (10) has friend over. They ar5e refusing to leave the house. I need to go to the shop. AIBU to leave them here alone?

[mrsruffallo]

That's it really. I would be gone for about an hour. Can't make up my mind.

[NeoMaxiZoomDweebie]

Yanbu in my opinion but I would check with the friend's Mum or Dad first.

[Floggingmolly]

Yes, you are. You can't make that decision for someone else's child!
Besides, they're 10. You're in charge.

[seeker]

I would check with the visiting child's parent first, then decide.

[nokidshere]

I wouldn't leave someone elses child at home without asking their parent first.

[cansu]

Would you normally leave your dc at home? If so t hen you need to call friends mum and ask whether she would prefer him or her to go home as you are going out. Personally I would take them with me and if they kicked up a fuss send friend home and take my own dc with me. I do think though that whatever you decide you should check with friends parent first.

[SandStorm]

Check with the friend's mum but I think they'll be fine for an hour. I might take issue with them refusing something I've asked them to do however. I would be having quiet words with DD at this point tbh.

[TheNebulousBoojum]

No, why do you need to go? If it's an emergency, take them with you.

[CloudsAndTrees]

You can't do that with someone else's child. While I'm ok with leaving my own 10yo for half an hour or so, I'd be pissed off if someone else took that decision for me while my child was a guest in their house.

Why are they refusing to leave? Just tell them they have to. You are the adult!

[BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack]

I would happily leave my own 10 YO DS, I wouldnt leave some one elses unless the mum was ok with it.

However, they are kids - they cannot refuse to leave the house. Just tell them they are coming with you or the friend has to go home.

[livinginwonderland]

they're 10, they don't get to choose. i wouldn't leave another person's child alone in my house until they were about 12/13, so just take them. they don't get to refuse.

[diavlo]

My 10 year old does not get the option to refuse! That said, if you and the child's mother are happy then I don't see a problem.

[Lueji]

Why are they refusing to leave the house?
They just have to go if you tell them to.

[yaimee]

Either you need to ask the friends parents or make it very clear that if they don't get there added out of the door and to the shop with you, friend will be going home.

[Fairylea]

They will just have to go! They are 10!

I don't let my dd aged 10 out alone or leave her home alone, I'd be livid if I found out she had gone to a friends house and her mum left them home alone.

Just tell them they have to go and that's that.

[mrsruffallo]

Thank you all, you have brought me to my senses. It's been a long week! I don't leave dd on her own so will insist they come with me. Thanks!

[SwishSwoshSwoosh]

How on earth does a 10 yo refuse to leave your house? Do you have no authority?

If they won't do ask you ask when you are there, why the hell would you trust them alone?

I would be pretty angry if my child was left in your house unsupervised for an house without my knowledge.

YABU.

[yaimee]

Oh dear, don't know what happened there, should say 'themselves' not 'there added' ?!?

[willyoulistentome]

Tell them if they don't do as they are told the friend won't be coming round again.

[montage]

I wouldn't give them the choice.

[Whoknowswhocares]

Whether or not they are safe to be left is irrelevant IMO.
They are trying to assert authority by 'refusing'. You are the adult, you have said you are all going.
Unless you really want to encourage this sort of bad behaviour in the future, you have no alternative but to follow through and assert yourself!