cufflinks on the arm of the couch boxer shorts and socks on the bathroom floor (1 metre from the washing basket!) trousers hung up over the banister suit jacket hung on a dining room chair tie on the stairs another tie on the table
You need a full-scale hissy fit. If you can manage tears, that would probably help. Me screeching "why the fuck do you think it's OK that I should be picking up your used underwear?" sorted DH out fairly pronto.
I don't think you can change this behaviour in an adult. My dh is like that. His db is ridiculously tidy. Tidy up so it looks how you want it to and pocket any money that falls out of his pockets. And feel free to rant. It's like a fucking illness with them, I know!
I think it must be linked to the same lack of thought process which means that DH also leaves letters which need posting on the kitchen work top expecting that I will post them, when he passes the post box in the village on his way to work - and I am a SAHM so don't go out every day!
I do the laundry. The first time DH left his sweaty underwear in his work out gear for me to pick out, I told him that it wasn't cool. The second time I told him that one night he would come home, go to bed and the sweaty underwear would be neatly wrapped around his pillow. He never did it again.
If he does this all the time and ignores your requests that he at least puts his own stuff away ( or counters with some sort of diversion tactic such as...well, you sometimes leave your stuff lying about) and puts his dirty washing in the laundry and you do most of the chores then YANBU
If this just happens sometimes and other times he does pick up after himself as well as pick up after you the YABU.
I suspect from how fed up you sound that the latter doesn't happen that often?
Terry's, are we married to the same man?!?!?! My DH will leave a trail of his clothes to the bathroom in the morning, and walk straight past them and not bring them downstairs to the wash bin!!! And if he does bring them down, he'll pile it up INFRONT of the washing machine!!! Drives me mad! Glad I'm not the only one to contend with this