DS is 4 months old we've been lucky in that he's fell in to a really good bedtime routine already and goes to bed after his bath at 6:30. DH only gets home at about 5:30 so only gets an hour a day during the week to spend with DS plus DS starts to get reall whiny around this time because he's getting tired. Because of this I have asked family not to call Round after about 5:30 ish. PIL don't work and could come whenever but continue to come just before bed time. It's really starting to annoy me but DH thinks I am being unfair. AIBU or should I stick to my guns and ask them not to come again at that time?
Well if dh is going to stick up for you then did him. Change the bedtime routine do you and ds aren't available at that time. Dd gets out if the bath and we dress and have quiet time in her room. Nobody can come in when I'm doing it or she won't settle. I'd not want anyone visiting at that time tbh it's wind down time.
YANBU. You're the boss and they are being rude coming round when they are not wanted. Chocolate has a nice idea, and make sure you invite them some weekends because they probably want to see their boy with his boy.
I don't think you are being unreasonable! it's really important that babies get a sense of routine (even if they fight it themselves lol) as it makes them feel settled and secure and you have done so well to get him to that stage so early on, it's not really fair of your PIL to ruin it! I don't understand why they wouldn't want to come during the day and spend time with your DS when he is awake if they don't have work or other commitments?
Samuel that is what I think too! He's so much happier and enjoyable during the day its nicer for them to see him then! they are really good with us and i appreciate they want to enjoy their first grandchild but we need family time too! Thanks for reassuring me ladies I was worried I was been a cow!
You sound a lovely caring DiL. I do think that PiL are being unreasonable and a bit insensitive. You need time to be together as a family. I would be careful about arranging a regular time / day for your PiL to come round as this could well turn into 'their' slot to the end of time.......