I had a bit of a fright at nursery pick-up today - not a near miss exactly, but one of those situations where you get a bit of a shiver when you think about what might have happened.
There was another child (about 18 months) being picked up by his dad at the same time as I was picking up DS2 - he's usually collected by his mum and I've never seen the dad before.
The nursery has a small car-park - just a row of 4 spaces with a biggish space in front for you to pull out into, so it's fairly safe as if small children get loose and bolt they tend to leg it across in front of the cars and you can see them easily. I've only seen this happen once, but I'm always uber-cautious because the time it did happen, someone was just pulling out of the space and had to stop sharpish.
The dad's phone rang as he was coming out of the nursery and he was talking the whole time I was loading DS2 in the car. I went round the other side (going round the back to get there), got into the car and then straight out again as I'd just realised that DS1 had undone his straps. I did them back up again and got back in to the front. I was about to start the engine but I glanced around and couldn't see the other child so I hesitated - the dad was standing by the open car door, still on the phone, but the child clearly wasn't in the seat. At this point the dad started wandering fairly casually towards the front of my car, still on the phone. The child's head suddenly appeared over the front of the car - he'd been crouching or sitting right up against the bumper.
If that had been me I would have been running over, yelling and waving my arms, and I would have been in a right state. I'd have been furious with myself, beside myself about what might have happened, and apologising like mad. The dad strolled over, still on the phone, gave me a big, beaming grin and pointed down at the child in a "what a little rascal" kind of way and then wandered off with the child again.
It was only after I left the car-park, feeling a bit shaky, that it occurred to me that I really should have stopped, got out and told him how close I had been to pulling out and straight over his child. I'm now feeling a bit stupid for not pulling him up on it - he clearly didn't think it was much of an issue.
I'm not sure if I'm over-reacting - I mean I never got the engine started. My seat-belt was on and I was about to start up, but he would surely have come running if the engine had started. I'm just having flashes of me being in a bit of a hurry, doing a cursory glance around and then turning the engine on and pulling out in a couple of seconds, straight over the child.
I'm trying to decide whether to say something to the nursery - so they can decide whether to ask him to keep hold of the child in the car-park. We can all do daft things - I know I can - but most people give some sign of realising they've done something potentially dangerous and reacting to it.
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Would I be unreasonable to say something to the nursery?
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kungfupannda · 10/04/2013 18:28
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