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To think I may have cursed my child with middleagedteendom.

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IdiotishPrattle Wed 10-Apr-13 15:08:18

DD (16) and her boyfriend are going to a Steampunk event. They are going dressed in 'character', no problem with that, they have attended other such events, mixed with other such young people similarly attired and had a great time.
This time it is being held in a venue outside of the city centre, with only the facilities available that belong to the venue, as its touristy, they can be quite pricey. DD has just told me they are planning on taking a picnic and flask of tea.
I jokingly suggested they took a picnic blanket as well, which she took to be a very good suggestion instead of a joke.

Where have I gone wrong with my parenting?
I feel like I've failed somehow.

They should be planning on slurping a couple of cans and eating bags of chips, while standing nonchalantly amongst these Steampunk, Gothic types, not taking a bloody flask of tea with them, like an auld biddy on a day trip.
Perhaps its my fault, but I blame places like the N.T, she must have had too much exposure when she was younger. I need to re read their 50 things to do malarky and see if it includes 'pottering around the gift shop', 'lugging a flask of tea' and 'commenting on the quality of the scones'.

So would I be unreasonable to hide all our flasks before the event?

I feel it would be a merciful action to save them from themselves, preventing them from prematurely looking for Bargain Hunt on iplayer and flicking through the Lakeland catalogue.

Is middleagedteendom the new rebellion of the youth of today? Might I be exposing them to ridicule and embarrassment, without these status symbols of revolution and youth culture? ( or flask and picnic blanket as I call it)

I'm just going to try and find Steampunk type cagoules now, in case it rains on the day, or maybe they still do those plastic headscarves my granny used to be fond of.

OrangeFootedScrubfowl Thu 11-Apr-13 00:24:29

I was a middle aged teen and I sadly never grew out of it.

IdiotishPrattle Fri 12-Apr-13 10:51:05

Steampunk is a sort of Victorian era, steam technology and science fiction mix. Think Robert Downey JR's Sherlock, but with googles on the hats.

landofsoapandglory I love the driving advice grin

Thank you for all who have educated me about the essentialness of tea in Steampunk, the Victorian era and the sacred art of tea drinking, it should have been obvious to me and I feel blush now that I didn't make the connection earlier.

OrangeFootedScrubfowl Perhaps a rebellious octogenarianhood awaits you. smile

secretscwirrels Fri 12-Apr-13 10:57:23

Oh I have one of those. He's like Saffy to my Edina.
I was teaching him to drive and after the third life threatening event in 5 minutes I swore. Actually said the F word. He has never in all his 17 years heard me swear and was shock, nor has he ever sworn apparently. He had a quiet word with DH about it when we got home who had to keep a straight face.
There are lots of things he doesn't approve of. Wears judgy pants.

Sokmonsta Fri 12-Apr-13 11:00:56

Embarrasses self by revealing aged 18, went on a New Years night out complete with coat and scarf. And was horrified at the girl walking round in hot pants, uggs and a crop top - she must have been freezing! (We were in and out of clubs too so I didn't really need the coat except for standing in long queues).

HairyGrotter Fri 12-Apr-13 11:09:53

I'm 32 and still use glow sticks and recreational drugs...

I think the picnic idea is perfect for the 'scene' as it were. Glad the goths are cheering up a bit, they were terrible drinking company when I was younger.

I'm not sure how I'd feel if DD was sensible. Like another poster said, I'm a bit fearful of the whole Ab Fab thing happening. I never really grew up

IdiotishPrattle Fri 12-Apr-13 11:11:02

That's how I feel secretscwirrels, plunged into our own version of Ab Fab, it wrong foots me, makes me want to rebel against her and then I remember, I'm actually the parent here.

I have to be careful what I write about her as she's on Mumsnet as well, loves it, tells me about interesting treads I might have missed.

Trills Fri 12-Apr-13 11:14:14

Tea sounds quite steampunky to me. smile

IdiotishPrattle Fri 12-Apr-13 11:17:36

Nothing wrong with a sensible coat Sokmonsta, I hate being cold even when a teen. Perhaps its hereditary and I've passed her the middleagedteen gene * recalls teenager years, no, I wasn't that sensible *

chrome100 Fri 12-Apr-13 11:21:59

I was very sensible until I hit about 25 then went wild and crazy and made up for lost time. Just warning you...

quoteunquote Fri 12-Apr-13 11:54:47

Somewhere there is a picture of some friend and I taken early one sunny morning, we all have mohawks , hard core punks, sitting on the stones at Glastonbury, top of the green fields, we are all knitting.

secretscwirrels Fri 12-Apr-13 11:55:29

Your DD on Mumsnet!
Mine think it's about swapping recipes and household hints wink.

CouthySaysEatChoccyEggs Fri 12-Apr-13 12:40:00

My DD is like this too.


There's me, yearning for the illegal forest raves and illicit substances that went along with that... and she is talking to me about why girls want to go out with little more than a belt on.

She asked to go through my old clothes to see if there was anything she might want, and I got disapproving sighs and tuts and comments like "weren't you freezing, going out in that..."

She's middle aged at just 15...

Annunziata Fri 12-Apr-13 12:42:06

I'd love a middle aged teen.

I'll swap you DD's leopardprint top that she thinks is a dress, ok?

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