DS had a friend over for 1 hour today and it just did my head in. DS goes a bit silly and crazy with excitement and the house, spotless before the friend came round, was chaos by the time the friend left. AIBU to expect, at age 8 (year 3) for a friend to come round, for them to stay in DS' bedroom most of the time and have a nice lego session or something?!
These are the things that annoyed me:
DS got a bit cheeky with me, speaking in a silly voice, showing off in front of his friend
The bed was used as a trampoline - which I don't allow. Also some jumping on the sofas and cushions thrown about.
There was running around and slamming of doors. I live in a small flat and don't think there is enough room for running. The airer full of clothes was knocked over.
The key kept being taken out of the bathroom door, guess what, it's now missing so no lock on bathroom door.
I expect some mess, but so many toys were just pulled out and left out with no regard, then playing/messing about with toys on the floor liable to get broken.
Toys scattered about in the kitchen, bathroom and living room.
They went in my bedroom which is out of bounds. Also felt that there was too much going into other rooms, ds has a great room with loads of toys,is there any need to keep going in the other rooms?
They tried to play hide and seek. Which invariably means going into places that I'd rather them not go.
There was arguing. I expect a bit of this but everytime certain friends come over there is arguing/sulking.
Is this just normal, excited, boisterous behavour and am I expecting too much? How does your dc and guests behave?
AIBU?
to expect DS to play sensibly when his friends come over?
whethergirl · 09/04/2013 22:49
I expected it when he was younger Backtobedlam but thought they were old enough to play sensibly now, but looks like I might have been wrong as it seems other kids do it too. If that's the case, then will need to drop my expectations, and as Tigoldbitties says, lay down basic rules, (no going into my room, no cornering the cat, tidying up afterwards, no bouncing on bed).
Feel bad now, as had a bit of a go at ds. He went all melodramatic and insisted I should punish him for being so selfish (victim, much 
). I told him it wasn't that bad and he should just make it up by tidying up but it would probably be a while before he has a friend over again.
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I was inwardly smiling as I was reading the title thinking YABU 
Showing off sums it up nicely, not necessarily doing it on purpose, but knowing the rules are different when someone else comes round and playing on that.
I'd be having a serious word, but nothing too OTT, playing sensibly is shit not all it's cracked up to be when you're 8
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