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To not want Dh to take this job.

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McNewPants2013 Tue 09-Apr-13 18:58:14

DH job at the moment is permanent, I know how much he hates working there.

He has found another job but it via an agency.

I know with agency work before 13 weeks they may phone up and not require your services.

We have 2 children and huge debts so we cannot afford for either of us to be out of work.

HoHoHoNoYouDont Tue 09-Apr-13 19:00:30

YANBU especially as you have huge debts. I do feel sorry for him though as I have been in a job I hate and it's soul destroying. Is there anything he could change to make it bearable?

kinkyfuckery Tue 09-Apr-13 19:01:38


He can't give up a permanent job for a temporary one. He has responsibilities.

Hassled Tue 09-Apr-13 19:02:29

I think you're right but I do feel for him. I think he needs to just focus on finding a different permanent job.

oldraver Tue 09-Apr-13 19:03:59

If he has a permanent job I would stick with it. OH has been on Agency work for a while now and on several occasions (including the recent Honda lay offs) he has been given very short notice, one employer two weeks before Christmas laid off all their agency workers

McNewPants2013 Tue 09-Apr-13 19:05:05

If the job was permenant I would be fully supportive, I know he hates his job and I do feel for him but our children and keeping a roof over our heads are more important.

catgirl1976 Tue 09-Apr-13 19:05:07

YANBU - You need security and perm jobs are rare

But it is hard doing something you hate so I can understand where he's coming from, but in todays market you can't give up a permanent role for contract work

expatinscotland Tue 09-Apr-13 19:06:55


catsmother Tue 09-Apr-13 19:09:13

I hate my job too and would dearly love to be doing something else. I expect many others feel the same, though of course it also seems a bit crass to be complaining about being in work when so many aren't. Trouble is (stating the bleeding obvious) most of us who hate our jobs can't afford to take a pay cut as we are working for necessities rather than fripperies, and that's supposing we could actually find any new job at all.

It's an awful position to be in though - to feel, for example, stressed out, unable to sleep for worrying, working extra hours to accomplish what needs to be done but not getting paid for it (e.g. if you're technically self employed and working on a set contract), dreading each working day and so on. Sometimes, there really is nothing to be done to make a job more bearable and you have no choice but to trudge on. I've often heard people say your health is more important than your job - say, when contemplating a lower paid and less dreadful role - but if you're counting every last £ what choice do you really have ?

I feel very sorry for anyone in that position but I wouldn't take the risk of agency work vs a permanent position.

TiggyD Tue 09-Apr-13 19:10:28

YABU depending how much he hates working there. Is there a chance of him becoming clinically depressed for example? Is he being bullied? Not an easy choice.

McNewPants2013 Tue 09-Apr-13 19:15:20

I don't know tiggyD but I know 100% that he is not being bullied.

catgirl1976 Tue 09-Apr-13 19:56:03

I have to say, I have just had 7 weeks off work with depression and anxiety because I hate my job

Unfortuantly I have had to go back as there are no others and the sick pay is ony for 15 days a year (even though I've been there 8 years) and I can't live off SSP

So I do have a lot of sympathy for your DH. But also for you as security is important

<useless fence-sitting emoticon>

McNewPants2013 Tue 09-Apr-13 21:17:42

Hope you are feeling better Catgirl

Snazzynewyear Tue 09-Apr-13 21:22:11

It is awful to be in a job you hate but the job market is just too fragile at the moment to take many risks. Is there any chance he can retrain in the evenings or weekends to be able to look for other kinds of job? I feel sorry for him but it is a big risk to walk away from a permanent job in your position.

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