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To be annoyed when people refer to me as Mummy?

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DXBMermaid Mon 08-Apr-13 20:59:40

Actually it was worse, I was refered to as Mommy... That in itself makes me itch, but my daugther isn't even born yet. This 'friend' (the wife of my DH's best friend) keeps doing it. She is not my child. I never refer to someone as 'mummy' apart from my own Mum. I do say things like 'a Mum', 'xyz's Mum' etc

twentythirteen Mon 08-Apr-13 21:01:39

(I've heard people called worse. Chances are she wasn't meaning it offensively?)

HairyGrotter Mon 08-Apr-13 21:02:08

I personally hate it. My daughters teacher called me 'mummy'. I have a name, an identity. Some like it, not me. The only person to call me mummy without my winching is the child I gave birth to.

BullieMama Mon 08-Apr-13 21:04:48

My daughter calls me mummay with a twang, just because she knows it pushes my buttons, I am Mam [smile]

Smile and ignore!

DXBMermaid Mon 08-Apr-13 21:06:52

I'm not sure she is smart enough to mean to offend But it just really irks me. She commented on a pic of the nursery saying 'That's beautiful Mommy'

Like HairGrotter, I have a name! And she isn't my child. It's like when couples start refering to each other as Mum and Dad... Weird!

lisad123everybodydancenow Mon 08-Apr-13 21:10:35

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MrsWolowitz Mon 08-Apr-13 21:11:56

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Shlurpbop Mon 08-Apr-13 21:19:11

A colleague insists on talking to customers like this "ooh hello there mummy! Shall we let your daughter look at this book?" all said in an annoying sing songy voice.
So patronising.
I wish she'd stop as you can see people really grimacing at her referring to them as mummy or daddy, like they don't exist away from their children.
But she is the same woman who gets angry if her children refer to her as mum instead of mummy and insists on being referred to as so-and-so's mummy so I guess she'll never change!

DXBMermaid Mon 08-Apr-13 21:28:03

Slurpbop that might make me leave the shop and never return...

My hormones are making me a lot less tolerant of things and it also doesn't help that I don't actually like this person. She claims we are great friends, but all she does is talk about her life. She never listens to anything I say, plus she is really thick, as in stupid. Thankfully she lives on another continent so don't have to see much of her.

I do realise that IABU as she is just trying to be nice, but It just sounds patronising to me and makes me want to scream!

thermalsinapril Mon 08-Apr-13 23:08:02

YANBU. How hard is it to ask someone what their name is?

RevoltingPeasant Mon 08-Apr-13 23:29:00

Ha! I had a nurse do this once when I was a child and in hospital, but I was only about 5 and I didn't call my mother 'mum' or 'mummy'. I honestly remember being really confused and thinking she was talking about someone else.

Eventually I just said, 'You mean your mummy?' grin

I also once had a bank manager do this to me - I was about 22 confused

Ducklings45 Mon 08-Apr-13 23:34:53


RedRidingChops Mon 08-Apr-13 23:54:18

I'm a nanny, I took the children to be weighed and the woman doing the weighing called me mummy 'oh mummy, let's just get baba's clothes off shall we?' I said, all apologetic, I'm not mum I'm their nanny and she seemed stunned- literally had no idea what to call me 'why not pop baba's clothes here mummy.... oh no you're not mummy! Haha!' etc til my 2 year old pipped up 'she's my (my nickname)'. I know it's odd that a nanny would take a child- he's 9 months, not tiny! But this woman was so very flustered. I think she spends all day talking to 'mummies' and didn't know what to make of me!

DoJo Tue 09-Apr-13 00:15:43

I hate it too, and I have a child. I also hated it when I was pregnant and people referred to 'baby' instead of 'the baby' as though it was his name - why not just use normal language when you are talking to an adult no matter what the subject matter?!

RubyGates Tue 09-Apr-13 08:19:24

YANBU, my son's nursery do this to all the parents. It makes me stabby.

PurpleBlossom Tue 09-Apr-13 12:01:18

I mostly agree with you OP...

However in response to schools/nurseries, it's not as simple as calling someone 'Mrs Child's last name' because that can cause all sorts of offence and embarrassment in its self. You try remembering the names of 30 different children's parents, Mum/ Dad is the simplest option!

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