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to be completely would up to the point I'm fuming over friends comments

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parisfernandez Sun 07-Apr-13 17:38:49

I posted a post up on facebook earlier asking if anyone fancied a night out tonight because there is a good band on in my local pub. I have not had a night out since last October and i split up with my DP last month. I was thinking a nice night with friends would do me really good. My DD is away tonight staying at her aunties house. 3 of my 'friends' commented saying that I shouldn't be going out when I'm pregnant, that I should wait until I've had my baby so i can have a 'proper night out' and the other told me I shouldn't be going out anyway when I have a DD at home. Thus resulted in the three of them laughing to each other about my situation and arranging a night out between themselves which is obviously not going to include me. These 3 women only started drinking a few months ago. They used to go out to the pub and just drink juice, now they are telling me that I can't go out because I can't just drink juice all night and there is no way I can enjoy myself when I can't have a drink.

I'm so angry. I cried after reading the comments they really hurt. I've removed it from Facebook now incase anyone else joined in.

Am I being unreasonable? Do they have a valid point? Should I not be going out when I'm pregnant? Should mums not be allowed a night off? I work full time so it's not as If I'm using tax payers money to pay for my cans of coca cola in the pub so i dont understand why I should stay in every night by myself.

I'm so angry

fatlotofgood Thu 11-Apr-13 20:54:22

They aren't worth worry your head over. Ditch them.

Uppermid Thu 11-Apr-13 20:07:41

Leave the bitches!

Pixel Wed 10-Apr-13 18:47:30

Blimey, I was sitting on a bar stool a few hours before my waters broke. Or trying to, but for some reason my back was hurting and I couldn't get comfy...
I had a perfectly nice evening visiting friends (it was their pub) without the need to drink alcohol, though it could have been the gallon or so of orange juice that set me off grin.
Luckily most sensible, mature, non-bitchy people realise that women don't need to become hermits just because they are pregnant!

GeekLove Wed 10-Apr-13 18:18:17

They send like a bunch of arses. Go out and have a stunning time! I went to Sonisphere and InFest while pregnant. If you HAVE to drink its probably not a good night!

DeepRedBetty Wed 10-Apr-13 16:56:32

I'm mystified how they came to be 'friends' of yours in the first place paris!

JamieandtheMagicTorch Wed 10-Apr-13 16:47:17

You poor thing. They are, as everyone has said, extremely immature.

LoveWine Wed 10-Apr-13 16:37:07

These "friends" are complete bitches. I would delete them and not bother. Definitely have a night out, but select proper friends to join you.


SarahAndFuck Wed 10-Apr-13 16:03:05

What turned them from juice drinkers with a watershed to rabid alcohol pushers with tight judgy pants?

Crinkle77 Wed 10-Apr-13 15:59:46

YANBU they sound like a gang of bitches and I would not bother with theem anymore. Why should you stay in cos you're pregnant and have another child at home?

Wannabestepfordwife Wed 10-Apr-13 13:28:32

Op they are not acting like friends and I'm another one saying delete!

I'm the same age as you and sometimes I do find it hard to relate to my friends of the same age who don't have children.

Are there any groups for expectant mums in your area so you can meet people in same position and you could have a group of friends for when baby arrives.

Btw I went to beer garden at 39 weeks(only drinking j20) so dp could have his last pre dc summer drinking session

Pixieonthemoor Wed 10-Apr-13 13:18:50

So even after you texted them to explain that they had hurt you, they didnt apologise and said you were 'stupid' for getting yourself into your situation?? shock. They sound vile - really bitchy and selfish. I am so sorry that you had to discover how foul they are but thank goodness you can ditch them and move on. You sound fab, btw, and if you don't already, I am sure you will soon have tons of lovely and worthwhile friends.

Emilythornesbff Wed 10-Apr-13 13:07:50

Unfriendly them. Yucky ppl.

TigerSwallowtail Wed 10-Apr-13 12:46:17

confused OP I'm 25, am 34 weeks pregnant and had a babysitter for my son last weekend so went out and had a great night drinking juice all night. My friends and family that were out on the night out too all said they were pleased to see me and were glad I managed to get out and enjoy myself. Those women are not your friends - definitely delete!

QuintessentialOHara Wed 10-Apr-13 12:36:02

They sound like idiots.

One day they may think back and cringe at their horrible rudeness. Delete them and block them.

KansasCityOctopus Wed 10-Apr-13 12:33:49

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

BegoniaBampot Wed 10-Apr-13 12:29:58

they sound like idiots, why would you want to be friends with them.

parisfernandez Wed 10-Apr-13 12:05:19

Thanks everyone. They did reply to my message but all they said was that they wouldn't do what I'm doing if they were stupid enough to ever get themselves into my situation. That just shows how immature they are and at 25 years old i expected more. Yes I'm young but i devote my life to my kids and I love it. I really enjoy being a parent and it was my choice. I have never ever claimed benefits or even council housing, I have always worked and i work hard for what I have so im not caught in a trap like a lot of young mothers are. They just don't seem to understand and I suppose they never will because they are far too selfish to have children. They aren't religious at all, in fact they ridicule people who go to church (like myself) and don't understand that either. I'll just let the friendship fizzle out. I'm sure they will need me before I need them.

Lavenderhoney Tue 09-Apr-13 18:36:58

I wouldn't bother to respond myself, just delete them off Facebook. Dont waste your energy on them. Of course you can have a night out! Many people go out without drinking even if not pregnant.

Can you call anyone else? Or just go to watch, you'll get a seatsmile and enjoy. I expect people will chat - I know I would if I was in a busy pub to see a band and prgnt lady was there. Take a magazine or something to pass the time til it starts or if its really busy just take a seat and enjoy being out.

You are better off on your own than with people like this. Loads of nice people about, make the space and time for them by losing these.

superstarheartbreaker Tue 09-Apr-13 18:23:53

Sounds like jealousy. Mabe they can't have kids? In any case they are twats and i would get rid.

elQuintoConyo Tue 09-Apr-13 18:02:44

Crap! Thanks was supposed to be flowers thanks

elQuintoConyo Tue 09-Apr-13 18:00:39

I'm sad to say that some friendships just run their course. Did you post that they are childless can't be bothered to find previous post ? If so, obviously they have no idea of the Rights of Pregnant Women to Party.
I'd let the friendship just fizzle out.
Fwiw I had people telling me I couldn't possibly go get a haircut on my due date or go to a friend's Christmas brunch as I'd be a week overdue. Such simpler things! Turns out DS was 12 days late smile People can be wankers. Avoid.

thezebrawearspurple Tue 09-Apr-13 17:53:51

Defriend, block from phone and fb, ignore forever. What nasty and very weird people. Do you have anyone else to go out with?

BegoniaBampot Tue 09-Apr-13 17:43:47

I was out in the pub with friends the day I was due. the guys beside me at the bar did look a bit nervous right enough.

Did you say anything to them OP?

MusicalEndorphins Tue 09-Apr-13 17:40:09

Obviously they missed the part about you wanting to see the entertainment, all they can think about is getting drunk.
They sound very rude. Are you still going to round someone up to go out?
I hope you do go and enjoy the band.

kinkyfuckery Tue 09-Apr-13 17:33:16

Hope you told them to fuck off before you deleted them.

Did you get replies to any of your texts?

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