Bare with me, it may be a bit long but anyway, I wanted to get some housework done today, we had building works done indoors last week and so I wanted to start straightening everything and have a break from the DC's.
My husband had been out gardening this morning as he has done for all bar one day the week.
I have made a list of things to do as I needed to sort everything in my head and husband has seen the list. So I head upstairs, having told him to play with the DC's. Two minutes later he is coming up with DS2 to "help". I didn't need any help, I was perfectly happy sorting things quickly by myself.
He then gets in my way and leaves Ds2 with me, while he goes into the attic, stopping me from doing what I was doing.
This happens every time I go off by myself in the flipping house!
My husband will not leave me alone and I ended up snapping and likening him to A puppy dog who is following me around and getting under my feet.
I am really sick of him not letting me do anything unless he tells me he will take the DC's so i can get on- which normally coincides with me having to cook.
So WIBU to call him a puppy or should I have told him to fuck the Fuck off?
YANBU. Your poor DH clearly has separation anxiety, a common problem in young dogs. Your best bet is to start off by only leaving him alone for 2 minutes at a stretch, then make a big fuss of him when you return, scratch his tummy and tell him what a good boy he's been.
Gradually extend the time you leave him alone, and begore you know it, he'll be quite happy to settle when you're not there.
I sent them outside and they wimped out after5 minutes.
I explained that he needs to stop following me round and what am really I going to do while I'm spending some time cleaning and sorting?
After I said this my husband said 'Oh, I was only going to help and then dismantle the bed'.
I've got anxiety issues and I'm gradually overcoming them and becoming more independent and I'm realising that he's starting to suffocate me. He's always been this way (we've been together for 8 years).
On a more serious note--could you give DH a task to complete (which requires his presence in a separate area of the house) to distract him while you get stuff done? As with kids and dogs, I think it's easier for a DH to do something, as opposed to NOT do something
His main task is to look after 1 year old DS2 who is a climber extrordinaire and death-defying stunt boy. There's always things to be picked up (which I ask tell him to do), so I think there's work to be done.
The crate idea is good. The shed even has power now, so he can be comfortable and not mess the house up!
Joking aside, it is really grating me, when he wants to get on with a job, we will let him get on with it, but the favour will never be returned, I have brought this up before and while I may have slight PMT, I am really struggling to deal with him.
I can understand the DC's wanting to come with me and that's fine, but not a thirty-something.
My husband doesn't do the puppy thing, but I do work much more efficiently with no one interrupting me. I tell him to take the kids and scram. I give a time that they can return. They are free to go where they want and do whatever, as long as they aren't under foot. Sometimes the go to the park or beach, or a movie, or go visit family. If they are around the house, I get drawn into discussions, asked for help, or to find things, or to settle disputes. I am glad they help when asked, but when I have a lot to do, I would rather work alone.