children speaking slang.

[racheael76]

hi my husband speaks slang and our children are picking it up.he says he has always talked like that, its the way he is.i am sure he never use to speak this bad.i correct my children but my husband tells me to stop moaning.if the children talk they sometimes may call me she and my husband he but he doesnt correct them .i have told my husband it really upsets me.he is not a chav he works hard has been to university we live in a nice area and are a nice family. but why does he not want the best for the kids .i feel he is more like a mate then a parent.

[squeakytoy]

It isnt a crime you know..

You do sound a bit of a snob with that attitude.

[catgirl1976]

I wouldn't like it either

YANBU

As parents you are both responsible for teaching your children to speak and he's not doing his part

How old are they and what sort of thing are they picking up?

[McBalls]

Well, I can only imagine what this slang consists of...but I'll assume it sounds ridiculous.
You have my sympathies to an extent but what did you expect? You chose to breed with this man...

[EduCated]

What is wrong with using he/she? I've never understood why people get uppity about that

[meditrina]

I sympathise.

It is a valuable skill to be able to speak standard English (whatever accent) effortlessly. I think parents can have a vital role in encouraging this. The DCs will pick up dialect and age specific slang fast enough from their peers with no parental input whatsoever.

If DC thinks DF's slang is inappropriate on someone that age, they're likely to let him know more fully and frankly than you can imagine.

[racheael76]

yes we were very young when we married.people told me i was to young i didnt listen.i have grown up and he is not the man i would pick if i was to do so.he is rough and ready and after having children i have realised a smooth gentle man is my type.but i made my bed and with this guy for my children he is not a bad man.he is a good dad.i admit i have high standards i can be a perfectionist x

[WestieMamma]

I'd say you have bigger problems than the slang.

[racheael76]

eg -innit ,somemort,

[tethersend]

Cor Blimey Strike a light.

[MrsBombastic]

Totally agree, YANBU nor are you a raging snob, it's called standards and like it or not we ARE judged by the way we speak and it affects everything from job opportunities to who allows their children to play with yours.

Image IS everything sadly. That's life.

[TheRealFellatio]

This is a weirdy one and no mistake.

[MissAnnersley]

It wouldn't be allowed at the Chalet School.

[70isaLimitNotaTarget]

My DC have very Essex accents (DS more so)
So what other people might see as slang is local colloquism .

But I stopped listening to one of the London Radio stations because the newscaster annoyed me with the 'slang' talk.
"Grand" for thousand "Nicked" for arrested.

And if my DS comes home spouting that Jeremy Kyle contestant "Y'know, erm, I'm , like, erm, y'know, Bruv " I'll have words

[usualsuspect]

Is that you Margo?

[mrsjay]

do you wear floaty skirts and floppy hats he isn't the man you thought are you writing a novel or something anyway if he is as bad as all that slang would be the least of your worries, Im scottish slang is normal my DDs speak it outside with their friends and not so much at home meh it is no biggies , oh and are you for real

[mrsjay]

Cor Blimey Strike a light.

Govnah etc etc I feel like im in mary poppins on this thread

[EmpressMaud]

A smooth gentle man

[JustFoofy]

Yanbu for your first post there is nothing wrong with standards.

Second post? ... not a clue.

[magimedi]

Has he mastered the use of capitals, however?

[RollerCola]

What is it exactly that he does and says now that 'isn't for you' op? Surely he's still the same person underneath? Isn't it just a case of some bad habits that you didn't really notice earlier in your relationship? When you say he's too rough and ready - surely you knew he wasn't a posh boy when you met him. Does it really matter as long as he's a good person & you love him?

[AKissIsNotAContract]

You don't type very well for a perfectionist. Work on your own grammar before criticising anyone else's.

[WeAllHaveWings]

Ds(9) speaks a lot of Scottish slang when with his friends, but knows there is time and place for it. He knows he is expected not to use strong slang in the classroom, at his grandparents, or speaking politely to other adults for example and can switch on and off quite easily.

I thought most people adjusted how they spoke depending on their audience, so is it not a good thing to teach your kids to do this too? Think of it as being bi-lingual if that makes you feel better

[PipkinsPal]

I've got no problem with children using slang but I do have a problem with primary school children using the word fuck etc

[mrsjay]

thats what I say we are weallHAveWings Bilingual

[Mollymiles]

Entirely agree. Code-switching is a very important social skill. Language is meant to be fluid and adaptable and it is perfectly normal for children and adults to speak in slang in certain situations.